Ok, whoever actually reads this far, please forgive me, I have been hit hard emotionally over the last week and ATM, I have no one to talk to....So, I ask you fellow NICO'ers to give any advice you can, and I beg you that you read my whole post before judging me, and I apologize it is so long, but bear with me please.
Well, It is probable that I will lose a lot of respect from a fair share of people for this post, I feel like I am doing the wrong thing, but I can't help it. I am MADLY in love with my stepsister Amy. For the last 2 years, we have been together and our relationship has had a huge impact on my life. I feel like she helped me change my ways, I was going off the deep end, and sinking fast. It seemed like she was always there, already waiting to help me everytime I turned around.
But back up, I am sure some of you are thinking, you sick #@!$! Well thats what I thought of myself for a long time. But what I didnt tell you is that 3 months after I met Amy and hooked up with her, my dad met her mother via my aunt and married her 6 months later. My stepmom told my whole family (aunts and uncles, grandma, grandpa, etc) when we got caught together for the first time. My whole extended family to this day pick at me about it too, several times they have broken me down in front of everybody. I know, I am a crybaby, I dont care what you insensitive folks think, I just need to tell the truth to someone for once.
Our relationship went pretty well until I caught her making out with my best friend, twice about 3 months ago. Ever since the begining of July, and especially the week of July 11 she became more and more distant from me, not answering calls and such. She spent the night at some guys house, and when I asked her about it she hung up on me, saying she didnt have to explain herself to any boy. On Wednesday, July 14, when I woke her up in the morning she whispered in my ear, PLEASE never leave me. I thought everything was going great. Then, on Tuesday, July 20, when I put some pressure on her about spending the night at the guys house I was shocked with what seemed like a movie, I swear I have had this nightmare at least 25 times, since I walked in on her cheating on me with my best friend. Deja vu rolled in, and everything slowed down as I listened to her telling me that she was leaving me, and it was for a cowboy at that. She told me she was tired of waiting for me while I am at school, because she is 19 and I am 17, and that she wanted a date that she could show and brag about to her mom and dad, and she told me that one of us had to break it off, and that we both knew it.
I am so pissed at the world right now, I cant think of anything else that can go wrong. I never thought that I, as a guy, would ever have my heart broken, I have never even imagined any pain like what I feel, I really think that she is someone I could live with forever. I tried several times to stop the relationship early on, but it never lasted more than 15 mins. I feel dirty, the laughingstock of the boards maybe, but I honestly can not stand being without amy, I havent been able to sleep in three days....I feel like a part of me is missing, I am mad, sad, depressed and probably obsessed all at the same time....I dont know what to do, I fell in love with her the first time I heard her voice....I have to watch her bring her boyfriend into the only place I can call a home, even tho it isnt much of one....I cant move on, I can't think, much less stand up. I know, this probably makes little sense, I am sorry but I just cant keep it a secret anymore. If anyone has any advice, I am in dire need of some guidance from you older folks who have dated a lot... how can i get over this girl?? Thank you very much for any help, and I am sorry it is so long EDIT: Better? I am so out of it.....
One of the worst weeks, ever!
Oh, and I must say I do feel for you. I cant identify with the stepsister situation (that is a bit strange), but I know the whole feeling of strong attachment and such. Trust me, I know how you feel more than you probably realize. Been there and done that too many times to count.
My advice? For real? Pack your bags and move 1000 miles. The space will clear your mind and cleanse your soul. Well, wait, you're 17.
Not only does the situation sound like a terrible predicament, she doesnt seem like much of a keeper anyway.
And yes, it is entirely possible to connect with someone even if they lack character and sense. So realize her flaws, and let go. Its a lot easier once you realize how immature, damaged, and damaging for you she is.
How are your grades, by the way?With her and your family being not so supportive or helpful, and your friends being losers, I'd say your car and your grades are what you've got left.
You cant pack up and move, so use school as an escape. (Its cheaper than alcoholism!) Hell, change schools if you have to get away from her. I'm not sure what the rules are in your district, but accomodations are often made for students in difficult situations in the interest of education.
Tonight (or tomorrow) wake up, grab your favorite CD, and go for a drive. That'll cool your nerves.
-Jesda
My advice? For real? Pack your bags and move 1000 miles. The space will clear your mind and cleanse your soul. Well, wait, you're 17.
Not only does the situation sound like a terrible predicament, she doesnt seem like much of a keeper anyway.
And yes, it is entirely possible to connect with someone even if they lack character and sense. So realize her flaws, and let go. Its a lot easier once you realize how immature, damaged, and damaging for you she is.
How are your grades, by the way?With her and your family being not so supportive or helpful, and your friends being losers, I'd say your car and your grades are what you've got left.
You cant pack up and move, so use school as an escape. (Its cheaper than alcoholism!) Hell, change schools if you have to get away from her. I'm not sure what the rules are in your district, but accomodations are often made for students in difficult situations in the interest of education.
Tonight (or tomorrow) wake up, grab your favorite CD, and go for a drive. That'll cool your nerves.
-Jesda
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Although a little different I've been cheated on too... well somewhat. For 6 months a girl cheated on her boyfriend and would do stuff with me but told me she cared about me and I can't say I liked it. I couldn't trust anyone who is dishonest and has no loyalties. I also couldn't call someone a friend who would do stuff with someone I cared about.
Other than grades and a car, like Jesda said, you could also try lifting weights. It has always relieved stress for me and has showed many benefits.
Other than grades and a car, like Jesda said, you could also try lifting weights. It has always relieved stress for me and has showed many benefits.
what a bummer...
The only thing I can tell you is that Life sucks.. $hit like this happens all time.. to people... not the whole stepsister thing..j/k
but you know what I mean.
You just have to keep your head up, take Jesda's advise and focus on what's important here
From what I read about her, she is not worth it! really... you are 17, you will ifnd the right one and belive me you! it won't be like this to keep the relationship with the "right" one.
she is nothing but trouble... leave her.
If it makes you feel any better...... go kick your so called best friend int he nut sack ... twice... because that's how many times you caught him... and forget about him too.
that will definetly make you feel better!
The only thing I can tell you is that Life sucks.. $hit like this happens all time.. to people... not the whole stepsister thing..j/k
but you know what I mean.You just have to keep your head up, take Jesda's advise and focus on what's important here
From what I read about her, she is not worth it! really... you are 17, you will ifnd the right one and belive me you! it won't be like this to keep the relationship with the "right" one.
she is nothing but trouble... leave her.
If it makes you feel any better...... go kick your so called best friend int he nut sack ... twice... because that's how many times you caught him... and forget about him too.
that will definetly make you feel better!
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this will sound insensitive, but screw her. she apparently has many issues to work out, and doesn't seem worth the time. I've been in your shoes (minus the whole step sister thing), and it sucks. I had a girlfriend who I caught multiple times, and I was too blind, so I gave her chances to prove herself. That was one of the biggest mistakes I have ever made. You'd be doing yourself a service if you just dumped her outright.
Trying to stay with her is going to be next to impossible because she apparently doesn't want it. She sounds like the manipulative kind, and enjoys watching you squirm over her. If you start acting non-chalantly to her, like your relationship never existed, you can watch her smug exterior crumble. She definitely just doesn't sound like she's worth it. You're only 17, you will find someone else. You will be able to continue life without her. And being 17 and deciding who you want to spend your life with is way too early. That's like trying to decide what you want to do as a career by the age of 13.
btw, if she doesn't want to wait for you to finish school, why the hell is she still living at home? Her little comment just sounds way to hypocritical
All of that is perfectly natural to feel when this happens. My last ex girlfriend was supposed to be "the one". We had talked about marriage, about how we would spend our lives with each other, but then the relationship went downhill and she left me. Meredith helped me through a very rocky part of my life, so you can imagine exactly how much she meant to me. Hell, I cried for a week non stop. I couldn't concentrate, I couldn't sleep, my productivity went downhill, but I got over it. Even with that hole in my soul, I got over it and moved on. You can do it to.420 240SX wrote:I am so pissed at the world right now, I cant think of anything else that can go wrong. I never thought that I, as a guy, would ever have my heart broken, I have never even imagined any pain like what I feel, I really think that she is someone I could live with forever. I tried several times to stop the relationship early on, but it never lasted more than 15 mins. I feel dirty, the laughingstock of the boards maybe, but I honestly can not stand being without amy, I havent been able to sleep in three days....I feel like a part of me is missing, I am mad, sad, depressed and probably obsessed all at the same time....I dont know what to do, I fell in love with her the first time I heard her voice....I have to watch her bring her boyfriend into the only place I can call a home, even tho it isnt much of one....I cant move on, I can't think, much less stand up. I know, this probably makes little sense, I am sorry but I just cant keep it a secret anymore. If anyone has any advice, I am in dire need of some guidance from you older folks who have dated a lot... how can i get over this girl?? Thank you very much for any help, and I am sorry it is so long
Trying to stay with her is going to be next to impossible because she apparently doesn't want it. She sounds like the manipulative kind, and enjoys watching you squirm over her. If you start acting non-chalantly to her, like your relationship never existed, you can watch her smug exterior crumble. She definitely just doesn't sound like she's worth it. You're only 17, you will find someone else. You will be able to continue life without her. And being 17 and deciding who you want to spend your life with is way too early. That's like trying to decide what you want to do as a career by the age of 13.
btw, if she doesn't want to wait for you to finish school, why the hell is she still living at home? Her little comment just sounds way to hypocritical
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Argh I hate women. This is the exact reason why.
I'm sorry to hear about your struggles, but seriously, get the hell away from her. (I know if you're anything like me, you're going to say f-u and try to work things out anyways) but seriously, she's going to cause you nothing but trouble if you try to work things out with her. And I'm not going to say anything about you falling for your stepsister because as far as I'm concerned, you're related only by a technicality.
I'm sorry to hear about your struggles, but seriously, get the hell away from her. (I know if you're anything like me, you're going to say f-u and try to work things out anyways) but seriously, she's going to cause you nothing but trouble if you try to work things out with her. And I'm not going to say anything about you falling for your stepsister because as far as I'm concerned, you're related only by a technicality.
Thanks guys, for everything said. I try to tell myself, why do you care, I just cant get over her, I dont know why. She moves from my house to her dads house when she wants something. BTW, my grades are solid 3.5 GPA. School isn't a problem for me. I wish I could go out for a drive, the only time I do that is AM hours in my dads thunderbird. I have no access to a ride besides amy, pretty much. I just moved into turlock, I don't even have many friends over here. I am trying to find a ride, actually to go see my friend I havent seen in like 3 months. I just need time to get away for a bit....but its hard to do with no car. And the only reason I still hang out with my "friend" is because his older brother is paying me $10 an hour under the table 
Have about $500 collected, saving for a S13 Fastback. I had a hot silverado at one time, and after a fight with amy I went and picked it up....Driving gets my mind off all the BS that I seem to attract, and I can't wait to actually own my own 240. Wish me luck guys, and thanks again, tenkawa i will definately try that, I just dont know how well I can pull it off....nice 'vert BTW
Have about $500 collected, saving for a S13 Fastback. I had a hot silverado at one time, and after a fight with amy I went and picked it up....Driving gets my mind off all the BS that I seem to attract, and I can't wait to actually own my own 240. Wish me luck guys, and thanks again, tenkawa i will definately try that, I just dont know how well I can pull it off....nice 'vert BTW-
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Yeah, I'd be kinda pissed at my best friend. That's mondo ****ed up and cruel of him.
Anyways, now to the useful stuff. I apologize for the novel in advance...
I'm 17 as well... as of about a week ago now. Anyways, I had a girlfriend from about December of '02 to February of this year. I adored the hell out of her. Within just weeks of getting together (note, it was sorta sloppy seconds, she had dated some other guy over me a few months before, and broke up with him just a month before getting with me... only 8 days before we first really started dating...) she was telling me she loved me. Soon thereafter, I realized I loved her too. A couple months later, we were both saying we were "in love," and despite limitations set forth by my mom on my social life, we would make it through if we tried. Come June, upon an embarassing situation in my basement where we appeared far busier than we were (in 13 months of dating we never went past heavy making out, not even up shirt or anything), and my very conservative mom flipped out. I did not get to see her for 2 months (when school started).
After that, things got better, we got to see each other, I had my license, etc. However, we still had many fights about getting to see each other and how much it hurt her to not get to see me and, in the occurence that she did, I was usually distraught over conditions with my mom.
We also fought about my feelings. She was my first "real" girlfriend... hell, my first kiss too... and I was unsure about the prospect of loving only one person in my entire life... I often had doubts about if this should continue. In particular, they had to do with one girl. One, absolutely gorgeous, totally awesome girl... whom I never completely got out of my head. This girl and I had been talking a lot over the internet and such (she goes to a different highschool in the area)... and we couldn't stop from being very flirty in conversation and such, and thus I completely stopped talking to her just a couple of weeks after my girlfriend and I became official (in January 03)...
Anyways, we fought over whether or not I ought to continue in the relationship because I was so inexperienced. Of course, my girlfriend would say "When I'm gone, I'm gone" type stuff... meaning that if I did take a trip out to date other girls, she wouldn't take me back. Besides that, I truly believed I was in love with her, the idea of dating others, however appealing, felt wrong in its own right.
The relationship continued on like this... these fights became more common. Sometime in December the fight escalated to the point that she dumped me (12am) for 2 hours, I had her back by 2am (go me!). Online fights suck.
After that fight, she was not the same. We went on a debate trip (tournament) to New Orleans. We sat together for a while, but the she started hanging out with her friends (all guys, as usual) from the other school sharing the bus with us. Her best friend came and sat with me. He is now the best friend I've ever had. We shared a room on that trip and on every trip thereafter, usually talking about my problems with her, but other stuff too. Indeed, he'll probably read this and chew me out for sharing it... oh well.
By February, she hardly talked to me anymore, and even when we were able to be together (at school, debate, etc), she was never with me, always hanging out with the guys from the other school. One guy in particular. To this day I do not know for sure if the things I heard about him and her (and suspicious stuff I witnessed) are true. Many say/said she cheated on me. I don't know. It still bugs me a little, simply because I want to know the truth.
I'm sorry, it's mildly insulting when your girl is constantly hanging around with a guy in a Nuclear Rabbit hoodie. Maybe it's the fork and spoon in the rabbit's hands... not sure though...
After a glorious Valentine's Day speech at a Model UN tournament (whole room clapping, many standing) made by your's truly... we came back to town. The next evening, she and I went out on our Valentine's Day date, a belated one, but all the same. It is still the best date I've ever had. It was also the last date we ever had.
Two weeks later I officially gave up, thanks in large part to the assistant debate coach. He told me exactly what I needed to do. I needed to let it fester inside and just sit there, til one day I'd wake up and say "God, I'm an IDIOT!" and I'd be okay.
The following Sunday (the day after that trip) I woke up and did just that. I realized that I had to let her go, because it was killing both of us for me to continue to latch on. We had been stopped by my social limitations. That pissed me off bad, I'm still pissed about it, but I've learned to live with them. I wrote her a song, burned it to a cd, gave it to her the next day, and it was over.
She claimed, and will always claim, that she hurt more in the end. That she hurt herself for the better for both of us. She did hurt herself, I understand that. However, I could have kept holding on and she would have let me. Betterment of both of us? Bull****. But I don't blame her for thinking as she does. We haven't spoken in months.
The point of all this is that I understand exactly how you feel right now. The cause of the end of the relationship is beyond your control. You have to just dwell on it til you can't bear it, and suddenly, life will slap you in the face. You'll wake up and yell "I'm an idiot!" and you'll be okay.
You'll move on, find absolutely wonderful people, both friends and more, that you love being around. You will love again.
I'm not going to tell you everything happens for a reason. That would be bull**** too. I'll leave you with this:
No, everything doesn't happen for a reason, but if it makes you feel better, keep thinking that. However, I do believe there is balance in the world, that all bad is equalled by good in the end, and thus, for every moment you'd rather be dead, there is another that you'd give your life to live again.
Anyways, now to the useful stuff. I apologize for the novel in advance...
I'm 17 as well... as of about a week ago now. Anyways, I had a girlfriend from about December of '02 to February of this year. I adored the hell out of her. Within just weeks of getting together (note, it was sorta sloppy seconds, she had dated some other guy over me a few months before, and broke up with him just a month before getting with me... only 8 days before we first really started dating...) she was telling me she loved me. Soon thereafter, I realized I loved her too. A couple months later, we were both saying we were "in love," and despite limitations set forth by my mom on my social life, we would make it through if we tried. Come June, upon an embarassing situation in my basement where we appeared far busier than we were (in 13 months of dating we never went past heavy making out, not even up shirt or anything), and my very conservative mom flipped out. I did not get to see her for 2 months (when school started).
After that, things got better, we got to see each other, I had my license, etc. However, we still had many fights about getting to see each other and how much it hurt her to not get to see me and, in the occurence that she did, I was usually distraught over conditions with my mom.
We also fought about my feelings. She was my first "real" girlfriend... hell, my first kiss too... and I was unsure about the prospect of loving only one person in my entire life... I often had doubts about if this should continue. In particular, they had to do with one girl. One, absolutely gorgeous, totally awesome girl... whom I never completely got out of my head. This girl and I had been talking a lot over the internet and such (she goes to a different highschool in the area)... and we couldn't stop from being very flirty in conversation and such, and thus I completely stopped talking to her just a couple of weeks after my girlfriend and I became official (in January 03)...
Anyways, we fought over whether or not I ought to continue in the relationship because I was so inexperienced. Of course, my girlfriend would say "When I'm gone, I'm gone" type stuff... meaning that if I did take a trip out to date other girls, she wouldn't take me back. Besides that, I truly believed I was in love with her, the idea of dating others, however appealing, felt wrong in its own right.
The relationship continued on like this... these fights became more common. Sometime in December the fight escalated to the point that she dumped me (12am) for 2 hours, I had her back by 2am (go me!). Online fights suck.
After that fight, she was not the same. We went on a debate trip (tournament) to New Orleans. We sat together for a while, but the she started hanging out with her friends (all guys, as usual) from the other school sharing the bus with us. Her best friend came and sat with me. He is now the best friend I've ever had. We shared a room on that trip and on every trip thereafter, usually talking about my problems with her, but other stuff too. Indeed, he'll probably read this and chew me out for sharing it... oh well.
By February, she hardly talked to me anymore, and even when we were able to be together (at school, debate, etc), she was never with me, always hanging out with the guys from the other school. One guy in particular. To this day I do not know for sure if the things I heard about him and her (and suspicious stuff I witnessed) are true. Many say/said she cheated on me. I don't know. It still bugs me a little, simply because I want to know the truth.
I'm sorry, it's mildly insulting when your girl is constantly hanging around with a guy in a Nuclear Rabbit hoodie. Maybe it's the fork and spoon in the rabbit's hands... not sure though...
After a glorious Valentine's Day speech at a Model UN tournament (whole room clapping, many standing) made by your's truly... we came back to town. The next evening, she and I went out on our Valentine's Day date, a belated one, but all the same. It is still the best date I've ever had. It was also the last date we ever had.
Two weeks later I officially gave up, thanks in large part to the assistant debate coach. He told me exactly what I needed to do. I needed to let it fester inside and just sit there, til one day I'd wake up and say "God, I'm an IDIOT!" and I'd be okay.
The following Sunday (the day after that trip) I woke up and did just that. I realized that I had to let her go, because it was killing both of us for me to continue to latch on. We had been stopped by my social limitations. That pissed me off bad, I'm still pissed about it, but I've learned to live with them. I wrote her a song, burned it to a cd, gave it to her the next day, and it was over.
She claimed, and will always claim, that she hurt more in the end. That she hurt herself for the better for both of us. She did hurt herself, I understand that. However, I could have kept holding on and she would have let me. Betterment of both of us? Bull****. But I don't blame her for thinking as she does. We haven't spoken in months.
The point of all this is that I understand exactly how you feel right now. The cause of the end of the relationship is beyond your control. You have to just dwell on it til you can't bear it, and suddenly, life will slap you in the face. You'll wake up and yell "I'm an idiot!" and you'll be okay.
You'll move on, find absolutely wonderful people, both friends and more, that you love being around. You will love again.
I'm not going to tell you everything happens for a reason. That would be bull**** too. I'll leave you with this:
No, everything doesn't happen for a reason, but if it makes you feel better, keep thinking that. However, I do believe there is balance in the world, that all bad is equalled by good in the end, and thus, for every moment you'd rather be dead, there is another that you'd give your life to live again.
well man. She is your step sister she isn't your blood sister. The only reason she is your sister becuase her mom or whoever married your whoever. There is 0 insest in my mind.
But *shrug* get a good job and who cares about woman. All i care about is money and my car right now. Even friends leave like *****es. So, being alone or having 1 friend in RL is always good
BTW welcome to california girls
But *shrug* get a good job and who cares about woman. All i care about is money and my car right now. Even friends leave like *****es. So, being alone or having 1 friend in RL is always good
BTW welcome to california girls
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don't mind Geo, he'll probably get hit in the balls soon...
the step sister thing is kinda ****ed up, but it reminds me of clueless...
it's not like your blood though, so kids wouldn't have strange birth defects anyway...
you have to live with her or anything?
best advice I could give is get over her. don't get hung up on her. find another girl(a hotter one, that plays videogames and reads comics or something....)
your life isn't over until you're driving an SUV full of kids (look at Greg!:D ok, not really, but youth should be taken advantage of)
have fun and live a life instead of having one.
the step sister thing is kinda ****ed up, but it reminds me of clueless...
it's not like your blood though, so kids wouldn't have strange birth defects anyway...
you have to live with her or anything?
best advice I could give is get over her. don't get hung up on her. find another girl(a hotter one, that plays videogames and reads comics or something....)
your life isn't over until you're driving an SUV full of kids (look at Greg!:D ok, not really, but youth should be taken advantage of)
have fun and live a life instead of having one.
You have to put it into proper perspective.
Yes, there are folks in the world dying, starving, eating bird feces to survive, but in the outlook of a typical 17 year old (I was 17 just a few years ago), the world exists in a bubble.
Getting over things is all about 1) detachment 2) putting one's own situation into proper perspective.
Life experience will teach you that either you yourself have had it worse before, or others have it worse. Either way, the end result is a resistance to feeling devastation and despair.
-Jesda
Yes, there are folks in the world dying, starving, eating bird feces to survive, but in the outlook of a typical 17 year old (I was 17 just a few years ago), the world exists in a bubble.
Getting over things is all about 1) detachment 2) putting one's own situation into proper perspective.
Life experience will teach you that either you yourself have had it worse before, or others have it worse. Either way, the end result is a resistance to feeling devastation and despair.
-Jesda
well, boo boo, I won't bother to share my life story because none of you woudl care, just like how little I care for this particular story. It's sad, but what can you do?
There are people who grow up with out an arm or a leg, there are women who grow up just to be exploited sexually through trade in 3rd wolrd countries.
I have my own misfortunes, and when I look at peope whine about little things, my immediate response is... that's it? wow you are depressed because of this? I too, get depressed or sad because that's human nature. But each and one of us has got to learn to battle our problems.
go out, play video game, like someone said: weight lift, whatever it takes to make you feel better.
There are people who grow up with out an arm or a leg, there are women who grow up just to be exploited sexually through trade in 3rd wolrd countries.
I have my own misfortunes, and when I look at peope whine about little things, my immediate response is... that's it? wow you are depressed because of this? I too, get depressed or sad because that's human nature. But each and one of us has got to learn to battle our problems.
go out, play video game, like someone said: weight lift, whatever it takes to make you feel better.
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Well said, Loveless. I like the point Jesda made: detachment, that's what you have to do. By her actions she has eliminated herself as an important figure in your life. You need people who can give off a positive influence. Move on with your life, all the stuff that happens is only going to make you smarter and emotionally stronger.
Well said, Loveless. I like the point Jesda made: detachment, that's what you have to do. By her actions she has eliminated herself as an important figure in your life. You need people who can give off a positive influence. Move on with your life, all the stuff that happens is only going to make you smarter and emotionally stronger.
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first, kick your "friend" in the junk and take his lunch money, and add that to your 240sx fund. then, kick your stepsister in the junk and take her lunch money and put it in your 240sx fund. then kick that biatches new boyfriend in the junk and take his lunch money and then put that to your 240sx fund (should have like 15-20 bucks by now).
okay in all seriousness, you need to try and detatch yourself from her, as hard as that is going to be. if nothing else at least try and look like she doesnt' have any effect on you infront of her and anyone that could get word to her that she is bugging you.
she sounds like she is manipulative and likes to watch you squirm, girls like that kinda pride themselves in how many hearts they can break. show you that you don't give a rats ***, and it will end up bugging her more in the end
okay in all seriousness, you need to try and detatch yourself from her, as hard as that is going to be. if nothing else at least try and look like she doesnt' have any effect on you infront of her and anyone that could get word to her that she is bugging you.
she sounds like she is manipulative and likes to watch you squirm, girls like that kinda pride themselves in how many hearts they can break. show you that you don't give a rats ***, and it will end up bugging her more in the end
Well I really appreciate the help from everybody, and I was xpecting to hear about my problems being nothing compared to millions of people suffering around the world. Call me emotional, a *****, i dont care I feel like I am stuck, I have to live with her like nothing happened, it just makes me sick. I just gotta sit on my hands til I hook up with my real love, S13's.....
on the bright side, I saw my future ex wife.....some hot girl, looked about 18 or so, in a white fastback. I was driving with my dad and I saw her downshift and floor it through a turn, damn I gotta find that girl....
on the bright side, I saw my future ex wife.....some hot girl, looked about 18 or so, in a white fastback. I was driving with my dad and I saw her downshift and floor it through a turn, damn I gotta find that girl....
ok guys, you really do know your stuff. I think I finally found the strength to overcome this love. last night I stayed at my real best friends house, he lives about 15 miles from my house in turlock. She called his house for me as soon about an hour after I got there, around 6. She said she was going to come over, then at 9:30 she called saying she was going to her boyfriends house cuz I didnt call her back, lol.
Anyways, at like midnight I fell asleep watching the history channel, my sleeping pill on his couch. anyways i woke up and my friend told me that amy came to his house at 12:30 and tried to wake me up, and i dont remember doing it but i muttered, "i dont want to talk to you" or something like that. Around 1 PM today she came over and she asked if I wanted a ride home. It really proved what you guys say, she looked torn. She looked like she was going to cry, and she kept going to her truck. Then we got home in turlock, and she just came in my room and got pissed when I refused to beg her to stay, I feel stupid. You guys pretty much summed it all up for me, I just don't have the experience with relationships that you older guys do well thanks again guys.....
Anyways, at like midnight I fell asleep watching the history channel, my sleeping pill
on his couch. anyways i woke up and my friend told me that amy came to his house at 12:30 and tried to wake me up, and i dont remember doing it but i muttered, "i dont want to talk to you" or something like that. Around 1 PM today she came over and she asked if I wanted a ride home. It really proved what you guys say, she looked torn. She looked like she was going to cry, and she kept going to her truck. Then we got home in turlock, and she just came in my room and got pissed when I refused to beg her to stay, I feel stupid. You guys pretty much summed it all up for me, I just don't have the experience with relationships that you older guys do well thanks again guys.....
All you bastards making fun of him, how dare you. If everyone thought someone else is in a worse situation, everyone would
a.)feel better and not think there was anything wrong with themb.)commit suside due to head problems
I pick (b). Why? becuase if you always think of others what happens to you? you go insane.
a.)feel better and not think there was anything wrong with themb.)commit suside due to head problems
I pick (b). Why? becuase if you always think of others what happens to you? you go insane.
w1ngzer0 wrote:All you bastards making fun of him, how dare you. If everyone thought someone else is in a worse situation, everyone would
a.)feel better and not think there was anything wrong with themb.)commit suside due to head problems
I pick (b). Why? becuase if you always think of others what happens to you? you go insane.
but this isn't about us, this is about him. if he can't live with mere words then he deserves to die.
he will be alright, I am sure of it
woah woah guys dont fight over my BS, please I dont care you can call me a southern texas redneck, I can live with it i dont care. I really loved the girl I met over 2 years ago...It just pisses me off, I just didnt luck out, I met my first crush that turned into my doped up stepsister and I have to live with her.....