There is some confusing wording, but most of the information is correct.

This tells when the internal wastegate to open. Technically it should connect to a boost source, not a vacuum source, however they are normally one in the same. As long as it's connected to a source that sees boost it's fine, so connect it anywhere after your turbo but before your brake booster check valve. If you care about how it works positive pressure pushes against the diaphragm inside the actuator. The diaphragm works by a spring, so when you have 7 psi of boost it moves and pushes the wastegate arm and opens the internal wastegate.

You can use this to recirculate your BOV if you don't want it to vent to atmosphere. In order for your MAFS to get a proper reading it needs to be capped off or connected to your BOV. Since your using an eBay BOV it's possible that the BOV itself is leaking and creating the same scenario as leaving that hole unplugged, so as a preventative measure you might want to go ahead and recirculate your BOV to that fitting.

Plug it.

It might just be there to relieve pressure inside the BOV with the piston inside actuates, but I've never taken apart an eBay BOV before so I can't tell. Once you solve your other issues put your finger against it and if it is sucking in air it needs to be capped.
Your 3,000 RPM limit is the ECU running in limp mode because your MAFS signal is bad. If the KA and SR MAFS didn't work break out your multimeter and check your wiring. Download your ECU pinout here -
http://www.midweststreets.com/240SX/ecupin.html and get to checking for continuity.