Need Serious help on verge of a breakdown

[RedRum240]

Ok basicly.. I have been dating this girl for 2 years suffered 2 break ups 1 2 week break up and 1 3 month break up.....

We are in love, she allways tells me how much she loves me. but im the kind of guy who worries A LOT. like sometimes she wont call me back when she says we will and like it seems like sometimes I will try to get a hold of her and it will ring and go to voicemail.. I work 6am-3pm. and she usually works 5-10 but we dont live together. i like her so much im more comfortable around her than I am with my parents. am I just worrying or jumping to conclusions? Im really stressed out, do you think sometimes she doesnt call me back because she may be busy or because she doesnt care to talk to me? I know that this isnt the right place for this but I really dont have anybody else to talk to about this stuff the only people I can see myself talking to about it and feel comfortable talking to about it is NICO.

A good friend of mine from Florida who I grew up with who owned a 300zx twin turbo z32 I just found out died 3 hours ago in critical condition. im serious on a huge breakdown Im having problems with the girl I love. and basicly my brother died im not having too good of a time in life right now and I just need sombody to talk to about it.

what are some things I can say to her to get the point across I dont appreciate it when she calls me 1-2 hours late and stuff should I worry? I think I may be jsut jumpign to conclusions but I really dont know what to think.

what are some things and in what ways I can bring to her attention?

[KDashy]

Either she: forgets about it, doesnt want to talk to you, or is taking you for granted.

Its not as horrible as you think, shes probably known you for so long that you're not really that up there in the priorities list, and that you'd understand if she didnt call back, which you do (even if you worry relentlessly about it.

You know what they say, "You always hurt the one you love."

[yelnatsch517]

Just one question: How old are you? Kinda funny my bro was going through something similar a month ago regarding the chick. As for the bro, that's harsh. Hope you get through it well. Whenever you feel like there is just too much on your mind, you can always come here .
Modified by yelnatsch517 at 1:23 AM 12/4/2004

[jinsoku]

BE REAL....

take her out somewhere private. a park or something... take a deep breath and tell her everything... all your doubts, how you feel, what you want out of this and then lay it on her, ask her to be real and with no holding back to tell you what she wants.. you know what you want and it has to be mutual, if it aint.. "let it burn" and be out..

let her know... just be like, this is what i want and i want it with you but if you aint feelin me then its cool and see ya when i see ya...NEXT

if it doesnt work out...fu*k it.. theres millions of women worldwide. give a little, save a little.. cut your losses and find a better deal...

"just when i thought i found love, she shi*ted on me"nasir jones(NAS)

[gniknave]

RedRum,

First off I'm sorry to hear about those other unfortunate incidents. Second, the best way to figure a girl out is to leave her alone. I don't mean dump her, I just mean don't call her. Show her less attention. If she's used to you calling her so much, then she won't bother calling you because she knows you'll call. If you want to be sure about her, just don't call her at all. Let her do all the work. Let her chase you. I've been where you were once before, and that's exactly how I handled it. Believe me it worked well.

On the other hand, if she doesn't call you - knowing what you're going through she's probably not worth your time. Love can be beautiful, and then it can be the devil. You need to let her decide which type you guys have.

With what you're going through, you need to worry about you. What makes YOU happy? As you can see, life is short. Tomorrow is never promised. So is THIS how you'd want to go out? Be strong man...

[AZhitman]

Sorry to hear about your good buddy.

The girl thing will pass, but losing a brother has got to be tough.

Just know that we're all here, we're all pulling for you, and I think I speak for everyone here when i say NICO is about people, not cars, and we've got your back.

Email any of us if you need anything, you've got lots of friends here.

[Jesda]

I hope your friend pulls through. That sounds like a really bad situation.

[jdmfreak]

Sorry as well. The girl can pass, but the friend thing has gotta be rough.

[RedRum240]

thanks guys for all the help. I took a nap about 3 hours ago and had a dream that every automotive forum had its own HUGE warehouse eqquipe with dorms, cafeteria, autoparts shop, loung w/ theater TV. and last but not least a huge garage that had 20 spider lifts. our warehouse was huge housing hundreds of people. and there was this honda warehouse forum next to us and we would play pranks on them in the night like drive over and let the air out of their tires and pull vacuum hoses off their engines. It was a dream I didnt want to wake up from was having too much fun in it. but the sleep helped me with a lot of the stress. thanks again guys for all the help..

this forum is much more than people posting to their own sastisfaction and I think that we dont fully appreciate and some times take for granted what is given to us at this forum. I just want to say thank you to everyone expecially the moderator's/sponser's and expescially to azhitman for supplying the best damn forum on the internet. I love 240's and I would never switch cars. but even if I did hate the 240 I wouldnt switch all the other forums and car support and relationships between sponsor's and members is nothing compared to what I see here.

Thank you Nico.

[Bubba1]

Considering what's going in your life between your family and friend, I'm very sure it's stress. I'm also sure you'll get thru it fine. IMHO, You might be holding on just a bit too tight to your girlfriend at the moment. It's only natural. It's also a good sign that you recognize there's a problem. I say step back and reflect more. Sounds like you have a wonderful gf who loves you. I say spend more time appreciating the fact that she's there for you and less time obsessing about little things she doesn't do, like returning your calls slower than you expect. It will help with the stress. I know that's easier said than done condiering the heavy stuff that's been on your mind lately , but her job description doesn't mandate being soley responsible for managing your stress.

Keep your chin up and your thoughts positive and I'm sure you'll be fine. Good luck