My Grandpa just passed away

[Oatmealman]

I know this is a car forum but my grandpa just passed away from throat cancer that spread to his brain.I got the call from my mom around 9 tonight that he went in his sleep.I've been waiting for it but i had hoped he he'd make it thankgiving so that my parents could make it to see him one last time.I feel so horrible because i was there about 2 months ago and i was leaving and i didn't really say good bye because i was afraid it would make me cry infront of him.I wish i could have gotten to say a proper goodbye to him instead of the s*** one.

[AZhitman]

Sorry to hear, brother.

If it helps, he knows. And he's ok with it.

[Jesda]

So sorry to hear

[heliochrome85]

Sorry for your loss guy. He's in a better place now. Time heals all.

[IBCoupe]

Sorry, bro. I lost my paternal grandparents when I was 12 and 14; I refused to even go to the hospital towards the end. Don't beat yourself up over it.

[tiger-SE-R]

my condolences

[sx moneypit]

Sorry to hear about your loss brother.Hang in there,he is in a better place now.

[scotty-2-forty]

My sincerest condolences as I lost my mother to cancer 10 years ago this December. We're all going to lose someone, sometime. It's a fact, it's life. Not a day goes by where I don't think of my mother. But with time, the physical letting go brings a sweeter taste of lasting memories. I know. It's tough, but you'll pull through.

[Oatmealman]

I understand death happens to everyone,i just wish i could have said a proper good bye.Thanks for the support guys.I was pretty wrecked last night and still am,I'm just glad he's out of pain and doesn't need to waited hand and foot on(he hated that)

[Amays U G37S]

I am close to my grandparents as well (5 min away driving). They are a huge part of my life, and my grandfather already outlived 3 of his sisters. I hope that my grandparents live long enough to get everything established where I can take the lead role from there.

I honestly believe it is better on the other side, no matter what. If you're a good person you will have a great afterlife, especially if you did something good for 1 person during your time that made a huge impact on their life, and what they were going through.

[ricebike]

sorry for your loss... at least he went peacefully in his sleep... & i'm sorta on a similar path

my NICOtots' grandma has lost both kidneys on top of other complications, and she's on borrowed time... we thought she wouldn't make it pass x-mas last year
my kids are sad to see her from becoming a great nurse to being in a nursing home, helpless... I don't want to see her that way as well (being helpless & bed-bound)

dunno about an afterlife, but it's a nice reminder to have a good life now before the deathclock rings & to go pay respects for the ones who help you grow now before it's too late

we'll see if she'll last long enough to see another new NICOtot visit her in the spring

[MinisterofDOOM]

Really sorry to hear it.

[Oatmealman]

Thanks guys.I'm sorry to hear about your mom ricebike.I'd love to go to his funeral but I already spoke to my boss and he won't let me have the time off to go to Minnesota for it.I hate my boss.I'll just have to tell my parents to tell him how much i loved him.

[scotty-2-forty]

Thanks guys.I'm sorry to hear about your mom ricebike.I'd love to go to his funeral but I already spoke to my boss and he won't let me have the time off to go to Minnesota for it.I hate my boss.I'll just have to tell my parents to tell him how much i loved him.

Yeah, your boss sounds like a real a**. I've been a boss and for one don't care who it is that you would need time off to attend their funeral out of RESPECT alone (family, friend, animal, etc.). It's downright rude to not allow at least limited time off, even without pay; or even try to work out a plan to where you could stay longer before or after work upon return, or pick up additional load. If this helps at all, here's a link to your Colorado law, in which states that yes your boss is NOT required to give you leave.

http://www.colorado.gov/cs/Satellite/CD ... 1566764915


However, this Colorado law redirects to the FEDERAL law in which states basically that if your employer "... does provide a bereavement leave benefit per documented policy to the class of employees of which you are a part, then you are likely to be "legally" entitled to take it if you follow the rules." I'd look into that if I were you.

It also states that "... by the same token, if you violate your employer's documented bereavement leave policy, then your employer will just as likely have the right to take disciplinary action against you, such as depriving you of bereavement leave pay and even firing you. However, if you challenge your firing in court, the court will consider the whole picture to determine whether or not your employer really had good cause to fire you solely for company policy violation. See a lawyer for more information."

http://employeeissues.com/bereavement_leave.htm


Now, nobody wants you fired, but I guess I've been blessed in having previous and present employers understanding of this. If it were me, and it was a family member I cared deeply about, I'd hand in my notice and tell the boss to kiss my a**. No amount of being unemployed would compare for my missing a close family member's funeral due to some prick that dictates work over family. Just my opinion, and what I personally would do; everyone's situation is different.

Family comes first, and second chances are null in this particular case.

[krash]

Sorry for your loss man. We're here for ya.

[Rev_D21]

Sorry for your loss dude. I lost my grandma(last grandparent) back in 93, I was 17.

[PoorManQ45]

Thanks guys.I'm sorry to hear about your mom ricebike.I'd love to go to his funeral but I already spoke to my boss and he won't let me have the time off to go to Minnesota for it.I hate my boss.I'll just have to tell my parents to tell him how much i loved him.

Sorry for your loss buddy!

Don't want to derail the thread, but I would really consider leaving a job where my boss would not allow me to pay my respects!

[Oatmealman]

It's hard to leave a job like this though.I hate the work,i hate the hours and i hate my boss.But the pay is great for being a job that doesn't require anything.I get paid $25/hour and i'm due to get a raise.My biggest fear is if i quit to pay my respects is that i won't be able to find a job and i'll run out of money and quick.I spend a hefty chunk of change every paycheck to my jeep/dime/and now guns.I might bypass my boss and take it up with the higher ups at coors-tek.I get why my boss won't give me the time off.

There's four people that work graveyard including myself and we do the job of 35-40 day workers during the night and to loose one of us for a few days would devastate productivity,maybe i can work something out and fly out there the morning of his service,catch a ride back maybe an hour after his service and still work that night. FML

[PapaSmurf2k3]

If it were me, and it was a family member I cared deeply about, I'd hand in my notice and tell the boss to kiss my a**. No amount of being unemployed would compare for my missing a close family member's funeral due to some prick that dictates work over family.

Family comes first, and second chances are null in this particular case.

+1

It's hard to leave a job like this though.I hate the work,i hate the hours and i hate my boss.But the pay is great for being a job that doesn't require anything.I get paid $25/hour and i'm due to get a raise.My biggest fear is if i quit to pay my respects is that i won't be able to find a job and i'll run out of money and quick.I spend a hefty chunk of change every paycheck to my jeep/dime/and now guns.I might bypass my boss and take it up with the higher ups at coors-tek.I get why my boss won't give me the time off.

There's four people that work graveyard including myself and we do the job of 35-40 day workers during the night and to loose one of us for a few days would devastate productivity,maybe i can work something out and fly out there the morning of his service,catch a ride back maybe an hour after his service and still work that night. FML

If that's the case, then they wont want to lose you forever either. Just ask your boss how pissed he/she would be if the same thing happened to him/her.

[scotty-2-forty]

If that's the case, then they wont want to lose you forever either. Just ask your boss how pissed he/she would be if the same thing happened to him/her.

+1 right back atya!