Met another girl tonight, but slight problem

[rousie13]

Well tonight I met this really nice and fun girl at my uncle's BBQ. But come to find out, she has a 2.5 year old son. Would you run for the hills, just be a friend, or what? I'm leaning towards the friend thing, because she's really fun and nice, but don't think I want to get involved with a girl with a kid. I always have the cheerleader I met last night. :ylsuper

[nametakennow]

And how old are you/she? Turn and run if below 25.

Well... failed marriage is one thing, bein' a hoe who got screwed a little too well is different... it all depends on how the kid got there.

[Touchdown038]

Bet she loved the hickey.

As for picking her up, I wouldn't. But then again, I'm only 19 and totally not ready to settle down yet.

[rousie13]

Exactly my feeling on the thing. I'm 20 and going to school for engineering. No where near being ready for anything like that, if I ever will be. I'm thinking about maybe being her friend at the most, because she is very nice.

I bet it was the hickey that got her attention. haha

She's 21 by the way and I don't know the situation.

[nametakennow]

Be friends for now, you can hit her up later if you decide to settle and don't mind the kid. Bet she can help you a lot with other ladies for now though .

[Omar]

...and if you do decide to be with her, just keep your neck guarded.

- Omar

[SmithSR]

Run like hell. Unless you like the idea of changing diapers and buying groceries for another man's kid. Don't be fooled. You will be asked(told) to perform those and other fatherly duties.

Single women have a priority greater than you, the guy. I like to be priority 1 when it comes to personal, outside of work time.

There are plenty of young good looking women that don't have a crumb-cruncher in tow. You don't need the hassle.

Not that there's anything wrong with mothers or kids. It's just going to be too much of a burden for most young men to deal with. It was for me, that's how I know.

[andrave]

keep her around. If you ever think about settling down with someone, ask to spend a night with her at her place with a rented movie. hahahaha.

[Dattebayo]

You know, you CAN be responsible and date this girl at the same time. You didn't help her make the kid, so you don't owe her anything. That's the baby's father's job.

I'd say go for it, at least you will expand your mind a little about real life. As for changing diapers, you definately dont have to. You can hit it and help out when you feel like it without guilt. Who said its gotta be permanent anyway?Not to mention: How many guys do you think have turned her down now because she has a kid?!? You being the cool guy and not appearing to get freaked by it is gonna be a sure deal when it comes to sex.Just an experienced opinion.

[Phax]

There are enough women out there WITHOUT kids.

[Mr1der]

go the friends route, it could take a different turn, might not.

single mothers have it rough with relationships, especially when the kids are younger and in need of a father figure, it kinda sucks growing up without a father, but you gotta grow up somehow anyway.

Hell, you could grow attached to the kid too, just don't see any point in looking like a d!ck and never talking to her or just talking in an uncomfortable or awkward manner.

[Bubba1]

Wow, I was expecting to hear someone say "well, you know she's not a virgin".

I wouldn't worry about the kid since you just met her. There's no law that says you must marry a woman with a kid after dating her. If she's nice, and you both hit it off, then why not spend some time with her. You might actually find out...(gasp) ...you like her and her kid. My sister married a divorced man with a young daughter, and the daughter was (and is) wonderful.

[ace135cc]

run, and dont look back lolmy friend always ends up finding nice girls with 2 year olds, dont know what hes thinking, but if its not yours, dont stick around unless you want to take care of it

[rousie13]

Thanks for the opinions guys. If she didn't have a son, I'd be all over for a summer fling, but I'm still leaning towards the friends thing or running for the hills. My niece is the same age and can't deal with her for more than an hour at a time.

[skydragoness]

Run like hell. Unless you like the idea of changing diapers and buying groceries for another man's kid. Don't be fooled. You will be asked(told) to perform those and other fatherly duties.

Single women have a priority greater than you, the guy. I like to be priority 1 when it comes to personal, outside of work time.

There are plenty of young good looking women that don't have a crumb-cruncher in tow. You don't need the hassle.

Not that there's anything wrong with mothers or kids. It's just going to be too much of a burden for most young men to deal with. It was for me, that's how I know.

:Werd

i like the term "crumb-cruncher"

[nametakennow]

Yeah, having a burning distaste for kids is what would stop me, damn lifeguarding and cousins who are ALL younger than me... I used to be able to tolerate them... I need a whip at the pool...

"Quit running, *****" ::whippow! knocked to their knees:: "See! Told ya it hurts when you fall, don't friggin run!"

[rousie13]

Yeah, having a burning distaste for kids is what would stop me, damn lifeguarding and cousins who are ALL younger than me... I used to be able to tolerate them... I need a whip at the pool...

"Quit running, *****" ::whippow! knocked to their knees:: "See! Told ya it hurts when you fall, don't friggin run!"

haha.....oh god, thats funny

My niece has made me never want kids. She's cute and all, but god, what a spoiled brat. I can only be the uncle that takes them for a few hours and then returns them.

[ceniack]

i would talk to her, and hang out with her (and maybe her and her kid) for awhile, not all 2 year olds are alike (some of them are actually kinda cool). but just keep it at a friends level. if something happens and you can like her and her kid (not just able to tolerate it, but actually like it) then maybe it can be something more. but untill you are sure what you want, just stay friends.

because if you leave, not only will it be her you are hurting, but the kid may be or get attached to you and you would be hurting him/her as well.

(speaking from the point of view of the kid on the attachment thing)

also, dont' pass judgement on her because she is young and has a kid. for all we know the guy turned out to be crazy and she bailed on the guy to protect the kid.

[slw240sx]

all i can say is been there done it, scard the kid for life (she was a horrbile parent ), would not do it again, but she was a freak.

[Altiman94]

in bed

[rousie13]

Today while working on my car I figured out that Amanda is a MILF.......thats cool in it's own right.

[ceniack]

start calling you the MILF hunter

[The Mic]

http://www.askmen.com

[BaliLover]

The kid will always be the main priority in her life, and it sucks having a kid in tow when you're out trying to have fun. If she'd ditch her kid for you, shes no good, and yet its not fair for you to have to put up with it either.

I did this once and learned. It wasn't 2 weeks into the relationship before I was getting asked to pick the kid up from daycare, having to bring it everywhere with us, getting a baby seat put in my car, baby shoes on the back dash, etc. But try to tell the girl shes not a good parent and watch what happens. I'd say, just like most people, don't waste your time. Its one thing if its your kid, its a completely different thing if its not.

[PhaneSoul]

i was raised without a father figure most of my life, howd i turn out, workaholic, want money, i pretty much would rather do sumn by myself then with most people, im a neatfreak, when it comes to most things, ill want a partner, like workin on cars, weither it be by myself, or with a partner, im happy, really only stuff i wanna do by myself is stuff i do my way, cleaning, working at work, ect... im not the one who always asks for help, i try and find a way and then ask someone... i can figure stuff out very well by myself.. i dont depend on anyone for anything, what happens if u get kicked out or sumn... instead of me spending money on my car, a bit of it goes twords rent food ect... i dont depend on anything, i take advantage of it.... the only flaw i see now is my mom's bf is lazy, and works as a general manager at wendy's... i have only baic tools, screwdriver, pliers to work on my car with... and the other kids, are totally the opposite of me..... which is why my house is a mess 24/7..... but then again, their dad's stuck with them for more then 3 months after they were born.....

[rousie13]

start calling you the MILF hunter

haha....that should be thing under my name on here. :ylsuper

[ceniack]

i was raised without a father figure most of my life, howd i turn out, workaholic, want money, i pretty much would rather do sumn by myself then with most people, im a neatfreak, when it comes to most things, ill want a partner, like workin on cars, weither it be by myself, or with a partner, im happy, really only stuff i wanna do by myself is stuff i do my way, cleaning, working at work, ect... im not the one who always asks for help, i try and find a way and then ask someone... i can figure stuff out very well by myself.. i dont depend on anyone for anything, what happens if u get kicked out or sumn... instead of me spending money on my car, a bit of it goes twords rent food ect... i dont depend on anything, i take advantage of it....

sounds like me. but then again the females in my family are not you typical females.

my mom (before i was born) was the second licensed female dynamite blaster in oklahoma, the she became a nurse (worked at a medium and a minimum security prison during that time) now she is a substance abuse councelor at the minimum security prison. lol, funny story, at the medium security prison she worked at, this one inmate was giving her some lip and she leaned up to him and said "listen here *******, i could have you killed for a pac of ciggarettes" heh, never got any lip from him again

and my grandma is like the grandpa i never had, i remember when i was younger helping her cut down trees and stuff in her yard (with her own chainsaw). and she also used to roof houses and stuff. hell, she is 67 now and she roofed her house by herself like 4 years ago. she has more power tools than any man i know.

[Mr1der]

heh awesome.

my mom has bigger balls then my father.

she won't take **** from people, I didn't think I got that trait from her, being as I'm usually rather doscile, but as of late, I think it's emerging, or something in my brain finally snapped again...

she raised 4 on her own for the most part. 3 of us boys. the closest person I have to a father is my uncle, he's helped instill a lot of my morals along with my mother and I owe it to them to make something of myself.

to qoute Lit "I wanna stand out from the crowd, make my mother proud" damnit, I'm gonna do it too.

[Kalok]

Run like hell. Unless you like the idea of changing diapers and buying groceries for another man's kid. Don't be fooled. You will be asked(told) to perform those and other fatherly duties.

Single women have a priority greater than you, the guy. I like to be priority 1 when it comes to personal, outside of work time.

There are plenty of young good looking women that don't have a crumb-cruncher in tow. You don't need the hassle.

Not that there's anything wrong with mothers or kids. It's just going to be too much of a burden for most young men to deal with. It was for me, that's how I know.

You're so full of **** your eyes are brown.

I am a single MALE parent and have NEVER ONCE asked a woman to act as surrogate mother for my kids. NEVER. Being a single parent myself, you have hit one of my pet peeves.

Just because YOU had those problems doesn't mean that everyone is like that. Several women I have dated, even before I had kids, had children and never expected me to change diapers, or buy groceries, or ANYTHING for them.

Contrary to your belief just because one is a single parent doesn't automatically make them a sponge. Most single parents are perfectly capable fo taking care of their children and providing for their children themselves and don't need the help from someone else. Most single parents are looking for companionship for THEMSELVES.

Next time know wherefor you speak before opening your yap. It makes you look like an idiot.

[ceniack]

Contrary to your belief just because one is a single parent doesn't automatically make them a sponge. Most single parents are perfectly capable fo taking care of their children and providing for their children themselves and don't need the help from someone else. Most single parents are looking for companionship for THEMSELVES.

werd, my mom never asked a guy to take care of me for her. althogh alot of times they would offer to take me to do stuff (of their own free will) but my mom never forced me on them (although she did let them know i was around and was #1 in her life)

she has always provided for me by herself, although she had some help from my grandma to babysit when she had to work. i never went without anything i needed, and alot of things i didn't.

i think not having as much as some of the more priveledged kids helped me build character and be independant without having to leech off of my family. (not saying all priveledged kids are like that).

without the support and love of my mom and grandma and great grandma i wouldnt' be the man i am today.

but yeah, many women don't need a man to take care of their kids as they are capable of doing it themselves