You need to tie into the door locks in the driver kick panel "timer module". The lock wire is Pink/black and the unlock wire is Orange/blue. They require a negative pulse to activate. To disarm the the OEM alarm you must pulse a light blue wire behind the glove box with a negative pulse at the same time you pulse the unlock wire.
You may not need to worry about that wire anyway tho. Here is a test to determine if you will need to do this or not. Get inside the car and close the doors. Lock the doors with the door lock switch on the door and wait. If the OEM alarm is arming you should see the dash alarm light on. After about 1-2 minutes the OEM alarm will be armed if it is going to. At that point unlock the door with the button on the door and open the door. If the alarm doesn't go off you shouldn't need to wire the OEM disarm wire.
If you end up needing to wire the OEM disarm wire you will need to use a relay to switch (-) to that wire at the same time as the unlock wire. They need to be isolated so you can't just wire the unlock wire to both circuits. If you don't know what I'm talking about I can draw up a couple optional diagrams for you.
Here's a link to a guide for your car on my website.
http://c4caraudio.com/tech/90_93InfinitiQ45.htm