Unfortunately I know a little bit about this!

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As far as your mechanic not grounding the pump properly, I don't know how that's possible. You just hook the red wire with the rubber cover to the pin marked (+) and the black wire to the (-) pin. I assume your tech. is using a factory pump? If not, make sure he does so... you can get one at a discount at from our old friend joe at
http://www.infinitipartsusa.com If your car has any spliced in wires to ground from the fuel pump harness or controller harness, this was a rigged fix to bypass the tri-mode controller and have the pump run at full speed at all times. Typically the idle/low mode goes first.
Also make sure he uses a new o-ring, and replaces the fuel filter.
As far as the location of the FPCU, it hangs from the package tray on the right side of the car near the right speaker. Since he already has the back seat out, it'll be easy for him to get out. It's held in place with 2 10mm bolts that go through the top side.
Good luck finding a replacement. Took me a week of looking - I think that's one of the first things that go from a wrecked Q. I'd call
http://www.rosevilleauto.com and
http://www.ninfiniti.com unless, of course, your mechanic is picking up the tab for the $379.00 new unit! Expect to pay $150 for a junk yard unit, unless you find someone who doesn't really know what it is (like I did) and can get it for about $50.
Welcome to NICO!
Heath