I don't understand
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rousie13
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I don't understand
Well you guys probably know that girl I was talking about, well yeah I'm uterly confused by her right now. I called and left a voicemail last night. Then I called once more today(maybe she didn't get the message) to see if she was going to this one concert or if she wanted to go, and no answer. So I'm taking this as my hint that she's not interested, but after that night when I met her I thought she was very interested, but I guess I was wrong. I wonder if I did something wrong? :help Any insight into this dilemna would be appreciated or what I should do now (give up, try once more, just wait to see her on campus).
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nametakennow
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Damn boy, you give up too easy.
It could be a lot of things. I understand where you're coming from, but some girls are quite cryptic about their interest (they give you more hell when they like you, or something).
Maybe she's got some manhoes to get rid of. Maybe she's got a bad ex that she's gotta deal with. It could be a lot of things. I say you give her one more try on the phone, then see if she calls back when she gets your message or sees the missed call or whatever trick you pull.
Think of it this way: her ex isn't trying to pull moves on her and random guys aren't randomly kissing her to piss off their gfs so that they'll dump them at shows (local concerts, for the dialectly challenged... I didn't know what people meant when I first heard that term either)... so it's not all bad.
Not that I'm coming from experience or anything on that last bit... :rolleyes
It could be a lot of things. I understand where you're coming from, but some girls are quite cryptic about their interest (they give you more hell when they like you, or something).
Maybe she's got some manhoes to get rid of. Maybe she's got a bad ex that she's gotta deal with. It could be a lot of things. I say you give her one more try on the phone, then see if she calls back when she gets your message or sees the missed call or whatever trick you pull.
Think of it this way: her ex isn't trying to pull moves on her and random guys aren't randomly kissing her to piss off their gfs so that they'll dump them at shows (local concerts, for the dialectly challenged... I didn't know what people meant when I first heard that term either)... so it's not all bad.
Not that I'm coming from experience or anything on that last bit... :rolleyes
ok, ive been in a relationship for the past three years, but these basic rules hold true.
if a girl acts like a little whore, then she needs to be treated as such.
if she nice and respectable, then she deserves your respect.
if i were you, i would have taken what she was giving away, then pushed her aside.
everyone deserves what they ask for...
if a girl acts like a little whore, then she needs to be treated as such.
if she nice and respectable, then she deserves your respect.
if i were you, i would have taken what she was giving away, then pushed her aside.
everyone deserves what they ask for...
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nametakennow
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Bahahaha. Dude, find something funny. Women love humour above all else. Be generally this "sweet" thing they tend to talk about.
For instance, I usually start up a conversation around my initials, WTF.
If you need more help on that intro thing, IM me tomorrow afternoon/evening (well, today, since it's 12:50am here, but whatever). I seem to be better at intros and chases than actual relationships and junk... and I'm awful at endings... damn... but anyways, my services are always available.
Random sidenote: I think I've fixed all my girl problems for the next really long while now. YAY! Wish me luck on keeping it that way and keeping what I have from being ripped apart by my parents. Just thought I'd chuck in an update.
For instance, I usually start up a conversation around my initials, WTF.
If you need more help on that intro thing, IM me tomorrow afternoon/evening (well, today, since it's 12:50am here, but whatever). I seem to be better at intros and chases than actual relationships and junk... and I'm awful at endings... damn... but anyways, my services are always available.
Random sidenote: I think I've fixed all my girl problems for the next really long while now. YAY! Wish me luck on keeping it that way and keeping what I have from being ripped apart by my parents. Just thought I'd chuck in an update.
Well here's something that works for me. Maybe It'll be different since Im still in HS, but give it a try.
Try being a good friend at first. If you see them looking kinda down then its the best time to make your move. Ask em whats wrong and if you can help out. If they turn you down then try again next time by either dong the same thing again or striking up a conversation.
Another thing is that its good to listen to their problems. Being a good listener is KEY. Sometimes its annoying, but it helps to get closer to them. Eventually they'll come to you more and more.
Another way you can get em is by luck. I believe I told NTN about my in school candy business a while back. I was doin it just to make $$$, but the girls thought it was cute. As I got to know them through selling I began to give certain ones discounts or sometimes freebies. Then I started buying 10+ packs of winterfresh and just gave it out to almost any1 that asked. Sometimes the one that asked were refered to me by another girl or friend. I know this sounds silly and it hurt the sales a lil bit, but it was well worth it to get closer to them.
Its also good to have a certain charm about you. IDK how to explain it, but when you talk to a girl it certainly helps a lot. Dont EVER fake it. If you be yourself, the charm will be there somewhere. Let her find it, so dont worry about trying to make her see it. If she sees it then its all good and well.
ALWAYS offer comfort and support. Try to be sincere. You get lots of hugs and maybe a couple kisses.
Dont make them aware of any personal problems. I do this so well that you would never know I had a problem unless I say something. Depending on the problem it could be a good conversation starter, but it could also destroy the chances of you gettin to know her.
If you desperately need an intro listen to their conversations. Dont stalk them, but whenever they are with friends try to eavesdrop a little. Then when you see her alone start up a conversation about something she was talking about. For example,
"I didnt mean to eavesdrop or anything, but I overheard you this morning when you were talking to your friends about__________. Blah blah blah...."
Now there's a couple risks with this method. One, she may see you as a lonley guy listening on girls' conversations. And two, you might have picked the wrong or maybe old topic as a conversation starter and then it'll get nowhere while you look like a dork.
Also, you gotta learn the right time to spend any $$$ on them. If you just offer it up, they WILL take it. For me I try not to give any money out to the girls unless I know that Ill get it back within 3 days or if they REALLY need it. Otherwise, I just say that I dont have it. IMO the best time to offer $$$ is when they want to buy something, but dont have enough to get it. If its too expensive then I say no to basically any1, but if it aint much then go for it.
There's so many factors in dealing with a girl and fortunately Ive decided to stay girlfriend free for the past three years. Ive had some very good opportunities with quite a few girls, but I turned them down. It was hard, but I just didnt need the extra stress. What I did was when I found out that some1 was interested, I became good friends(Hugs, kisses on the cheek, etc...). Next I played like I didnt even know that they liked me. Eventually it'll wear off, but the good thing is that because you became friends with them, they still have a soft spot for you and you'll most likely be able to keep the relationship you had with them(Hugs, kisses, etc). This way when you're ready and they are still available, it will 1)Be easier to talk to them and 2)You already know the girl so it leaves out a lot of mystery.
What I do love about being friends with a lot of girls is that they begin to trust you with things that they normally wouldnt. They'll say "Do I have any thing on my butt(dirt/dust)? If so could you brush it off for me(hand:))?" or "Is my thong showing?" or "Can you see anything through this dress/skirt(color of underwear/no underwear" or Well there are a lot they'll let you do. This is also one of the reasons why I haven settled with a girl to have a "real" relationship. Id be in sooooooooooooo much trouble.
IMO there's only 1 problem with getting so many girls. BOYFRIENDS. They get jealous, pissed, and/or overprotective of their girls.
EX: I stroll into lunch and visit all my friends tables for about 15 min. Sometimes Id go to a table and a girl will get up and give me a hug. Did I ask for it no, but I hug her anyway:). As Im hugging her I look and this kid is staring at me. Then I found out that he's her boyfriend. Sorry pal, but 1)She got up to hug me and 2)Why didnt you say something about it.
OK I got a lil off topic. Anyway, I just put a lot on the table for you. I know A LOT of girls so I also learned a lot about how to treat/handle them. There's more that I can say, but its too much to list. Just let me know if you have any situations that you may need to discuss. I may be able to help. The most important thing for you to do(and I cant stress this enough) BE YOURSELF!!! They way that you guys see me on here is the same way Im like with them. The only difference is that I use a little less curses(sometimes hardly ever depending on the girl) and some of the things I talk about on here Id hate for a girl that I know to hear.
I think Im ready for a relationship now. This is all fun, but IDK. Maybe. It'll make Homecoming and Prom that much better.
Well that's all for now.
:eek::eek: DAAAAAAAAYYYYYUUUUUUUMMMMM!!!!! That was ****in long as hell. Glad to be of service to you.
-------------------------------------Rousie it seems that you've discussed this girl on NICO. Could you direct me to the thread? Thanks.
Edit: Hmmmm....I usually dont tell my secrets to people, but I guess we're family. Dont ever say that I never posted anything usefull
Try being a good friend at first. If you see them looking kinda down then its the best time to make your move. Ask em whats wrong and if you can help out. If they turn you down then try again next time by either dong the same thing again or striking up a conversation.
Another thing is that its good to listen to their problems. Being a good listener is KEY. Sometimes its annoying, but it helps to get closer to them. Eventually they'll come to you more and more.
Another way you can get em is by luck. I believe I told NTN about my in school candy business a while back. I was doin it just to make $$$, but the girls thought it was cute. As I got to know them through selling I began to give certain ones discounts or sometimes freebies. Then I started buying 10+ packs of winterfresh and just gave it out to almost any1 that asked. Sometimes the one that asked were refered to me by another girl or friend. I know this sounds silly and it hurt the sales a lil bit, but it was well worth it to get closer to them.
Its also good to have a certain charm about you. IDK how to explain it, but when you talk to a girl it certainly helps a lot. Dont EVER fake it. If you be yourself, the charm will be there somewhere. Let her find it, so dont worry about trying to make her see it. If she sees it then its all good and well.
ALWAYS offer comfort and support. Try to be sincere. You get lots of hugs and maybe a couple kisses.
Dont make them aware of any personal problems. I do this so well that you would never know I had a problem unless I say something. Depending on the problem it could be a good conversation starter, but it could also destroy the chances of you gettin to know her.
If you desperately need an intro listen to their conversations. Dont stalk them, but whenever they are with friends try to eavesdrop a little. Then when you see her alone start up a conversation about something she was talking about. For example,
"I didnt mean to eavesdrop or anything, but I overheard you this morning when you were talking to your friends about__________. Blah blah blah...."
Now there's a couple risks with this method. One, she may see you as a lonley guy listening on girls' conversations. And two, you might have picked the wrong or maybe old topic as a conversation starter and then it'll get nowhere while you look like a dork.
Also, you gotta learn the right time to spend any $$$ on them. If you just offer it up, they WILL take it. For me I try not to give any money out to the girls unless I know that Ill get it back within 3 days or if they REALLY need it. Otherwise, I just say that I dont have it. IMO the best time to offer $$$ is when they want to buy something, but dont have enough to get it. If its too expensive then I say no to basically any1, but if it aint much then go for it.
There's so many factors in dealing with a girl and fortunately Ive decided to stay girlfriend free for the past three years. Ive had some very good opportunities with quite a few girls, but I turned them down. It was hard, but I just didnt need the extra stress. What I did was when I found out that some1 was interested, I became good friends(Hugs, kisses on the cheek, etc...). Next I played like I didnt even know that they liked me. Eventually it'll wear off, but the good thing is that because you became friends with them, they still have a soft spot for you and you'll most likely be able to keep the relationship you had with them(Hugs, kisses, etc). This way when you're ready and they are still available, it will 1)Be easier to talk to them and 2)You already know the girl so it leaves out a lot of mystery.
What I do love about being friends with a lot of girls is that they begin to trust you with things that they normally wouldnt. They'll say "Do I have any thing on my butt(dirt/dust)? If so could you brush it off for me(hand:))?" or "Is my thong showing?" or "Can you see anything through this dress/skirt(color of underwear/no underwear" or Well there are a lot they'll let you do. This is also one of the reasons why I haven settled with a girl to have a "real" relationship. Id be in sooooooooooooo much trouble.
IMO there's only 1 problem with getting so many girls. BOYFRIENDS. They get jealous, pissed, and/or overprotective of their girls.
EX: I stroll into lunch and visit all my friends tables for about 15 min. Sometimes Id go to a table and a girl will get up and give me a hug. Did I ask for it no, but I hug her anyway:). As Im hugging her I look and this kid is staring at me. Then I found out that he's her boyfriend. Sorry pal, but 1)She got up to hug me and 2)Why didnt you say something about it.
OK I got a lil off topic. Anyway, I just put a lot on the table for you. I know A LOT of girls so I also learned a lot about how to treat/handle them. There's more that I can say, but its too much to list. Just let me know if you have any situations that you may need to discuss. I may be able to help. The most important thing for you to do(and I cant stress this enough) BE YOURSELF!!! They way that you guys see me on here is the same way Im like with them. The only difference is that I use a little less curses(sometimes hardly ever depending on the girl) and some of the things I talk about on here Id hate for a girl that I know to hear.
I think Im ready for a relationship now. This is all fun, but IDK. Maybe. It'll make Homecoming and Prom that much better.
Well that's all for now.
:eek::eek: DAAAAAAAAYYYYYUUUUUUUMMMMM!!!!! That was ****in long as hell. Glad to be of service to you.-------------------------------------Rousie it seems that you've discussed this girl on NICO. Could you direct me to the thread? Thanks.
Edit: Hmmmm....I usually dont tell my secrets to people, but I guess we're family. Dont ever say that I never posted anything usefull
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nametakennow
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Yeah, the straightforward thing is best. Pickin em up when they're down is only cool if you've been down too, that way both of you are rebounding and no one gets hurt. (Trust me, I had a short relationship a few months ago [it lasted ~2 months] that was great because we'd both just been through rough times and were just having fun, we're still good friends).
Beyond that, just give it time. I have this really odd theory... odd because it sorta contradicts, yet makes sense (at least to me)...
Not everything happens for a reason, most things don't, but if something really is a good thing, God, karma, fate, or whatever you believe in will point you in the right direction to make it happen.
Go with the flow.
<- Had yet another epiphany last night.
Beyond that, just give it time. I have this really odd theory... odd because it sorta contradicts, yet makes sense (at least to me)...
Not everything happens for a reason, most things don't, but if something really is a good thing, God, karma, fate, or whatever you believe in will point you in the right direction to make it happen.
Go with the flow.
<- Had yet another epiphany last night.
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nametakennow
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