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Mon Aug 11, 2008 10:26 am
I'll go in more depth later, but here's my quick-and-dirty take on it:
I believe in God. I believe in Creation (but not the *poof* kind from Sunday school). I believe in Heaven and Hell, but again, not the Sunday school version...
Anyhow, here ya go: I believe humans are born inherently good, kind and loving (in the absence of severe mental defects or chemical imbalances). I believe soon after birth, we learn ways to get what we want and desire, and in a nod to a micro-evolutionary conservation of effort and energy (read: laziness), we sometimes take shortcuts.
When said shortcuts aren't consequenced (either naturally - hot stove, or externally - SMACK!), they're reinforced.
I think the BIGGER problem comes when we're all forced to interact and coexist on this ball of mud, and what WE want interferes with what someone else wants.
I'm a big proponent of "live and let live"... If you want to drive an SUV, smoke dope, run about nekkid, put your jimmy in some guy's tush, wave a Bible, burn a flag, make a racist joke, fart in the elevator, speak kindness and love, talk to yourself, pick your nose, collect guns, leer at schoolgirls, dance the Mamba in a muu-muu, or vote for Obama, I don't give a DAMN. Knock yourself out.
BUT
I DO have an issue when those rights infringe on my rights. Now, there's the fine line, and we've discussed it before.
Here's the deal - I'm a strong advocate for natural consequences. If my son is out with his buddies and he makes the moves on some guy's wife, puts a hand on her backside, and the guy decides to pimpslap him, well, sucks to be him.
OMG!
Yep. Natural consequences. Now, he (my son) has to weigh the consquences of his actions. Absent any legal intervention, he must decide whether he can deal with those potential consequences. Should he talk his way out of it, apologize, buy the couple a drink? Or, should he take his smack like a man and say, "Ouch. I deserved that" and walk out.
Likewise, the husband, seeing the incident, needs to consider same potential consequences. Will he get beat down? Will he be rewarded by his lady for being chivalrous? Will she bail on him because he's a "brute"?
All that has to be considered, and if we leave the legal implications (i.e. government) out of it, it can usually be reconciled without much drama.
Here's something I've thought for a long time, and every time I say it to someone, it comes back to me somehow, and I think it's pretty profound:
People make the best decisions they can, given their capacity and the information available to them at the time. I don't think anyone really gets up in the morning thinking, "I'm gonna go ruin someone's day."
I DO think people fail to consider the consequences of their actions, and I think we've erected too many barriers to natural consequences.
In the Old West, politeness reigned. Before you buy into the movie stereotypes, do some reading and think about why that was the case... "The Law" only got involved when there was a crime against the community. Otherwise, the aggrieved party took care of business. Sometimes, they overstepped. But that's the CHANCE the perpetrator TAKES, and that made for a DETERRENT effect.
The strong looked out for the weak. The old widow woman was looked after. The kids knew if they messed around in Old Man Beasley's turnip patch, they might catch a whuppin', and their Paw would follow up with another - and then thank Beasley with a pint of hooch.
Look at our community here... how many otherwise "good" members say something via the boards that they'd NEVER say face-to-face? Lots.
Because there's anonymity, a complete removal of consequence. If I'm in a thread with Repo Man, and I tell him he's a chicken**** assclown, he's in Indiana. Nothing happens. But I do it in person, he'll shove me up my own a$$. DOH!
Anyhow, I'm rambling. I hope this was what you were looking for Bobby... If I got off-target, lemme know and I'll come back later with some more nuggets (or turds, whichever you consider them).