Do you have a FSM? I believe the FSM lists the torque ratings for nearly every bolt on the whole car. If you don't have one, hit Wes up... he can email it.
The drain plug for the ATF is on the drivers side of the transmission pan. Jack up the passenger side of the car, loosen the bolt, and go have dinner. It will take a while to drain. After dinner, go sit in the car and shift through each of the gears...the flood gates will open when you shift it. Go have dessert. By the time you are done with dessert you should have pretty well drained the pan.
transmission filter is located at the front of the engine bay on passenger side, and it is not easy to get to. The only time I can remember having ready access to it was when I had the radiator out while doing the chain guide job.
make sure you check
http://www.q45.org for details. Wes and Jesda have lots of good info regarding this stuff on there.