lessthanjakejohn wrote:so you want a cadillac?
Yeah, that's one solution. A nice soft suspension that makes your car handle like a 70's land yacht.
Keep in mind that you're talking about a 13 year old car. Stuff's gonna rattle and squeak. You can fix the major things, but it's gonna be tough to track down everything.
I suppose you could re-tourque everything and hope for the best. You could use something like Loctite's threadlocker stuff to make sure problem area don't come loose again. Of course, it's gonna be a pain in the a$$ to remove whatever you've used the threadlocker on.
The "flimslyness" during hard cornering can be addressed with a variety of suspension mods, I'm sure. Someone already mentioned bushings. Of course, a stiffer suspension is gonna lead to more vibration, so you're back to that issue.
Perhaps the answer is a) torque everything to spec when you put your interior back together and b)use a GOOD sound deadening material. It will add weight, but might help with a lot of road noise. Also make sure your tires are in good shape, strut mounts are still good, heat shields aren't loose...
I'm sure I've missed something, but this should be a start.
Try searching for Dynamat sound deadening material. There are other brands, but I believe Dynamat is pretty well respected.