Oceanblue wrote:ok i think the griding only happens when its very cold.. in the morning? im not getting uch grind once i drive it for a while... any ideas?
Definitely change the oil - I suggest a GL-4 or GL-4/GL-5 cross-list (no cheap "GL-5"s) in 75w90. Redline MT-90 or Amsoil MTG is a good choice. IMO, due to synchro wear and/or bearing wear, you need to replace it every 30-60k to keep it clean, or else your transmission bearings will die before the car does.
As for first gear not engaging, this is normal - 1st isn't designed to engage while rolling, so come to a complete (or nearly complete) stop first. When you do try and shift into 1st on a roll, push gently on the shifter until it clicks in.
For the reverse problem - are you sure that reverse is fully engaged? Since engaging reverse involves actually moving a gear into mesh with 2 other gears, it can happen that the teeth line up and don't mesh. The shifter will move partway into the reverse position, but not clicked in. When this happens, move the shifter back to neutral, clutch out, clutch in, and try reverse again. I've never had this happen twice in a row.
Dave