thanks for the responses guys.. It is an auto.
There was maybe 2-300 pounds of gear in the truck and myself.
I have towed the boat just around town with this QX4 with no problems, other then a saggy rear suspension
The mountain i was driving up is pretty notorious for wrecking cars... a good 15 minute climb at 100 km/h
I found this service bulletin from infiniti
http://www.infinitig37.com/TSB/ITB00-042a.pdf
talking about how the oil cooler in the rad must be inspected and cleaned with transmission service?
I was also looking at this oil cooler B&M 70264 and should it bolt right in by the rad?
Cheers