I didnt have a problem wih my egr fitting as I threaded it on prior to tightening / torquing the header down. BUT my egr has also been disabled from a long time prior to putting it on

I also have an s14b with 2 cats so removing the upper left the lower intact, thus allowing the egr to operate freely.
I really dont see why its a big deal if you dont pass emissions as you dont have a cat on the car anymore. By putting a cat on in place of the shell (rare s14b secondary, s13 primary, or highflow) and removing the egr assembly (rather simple) to fix / replace the pipe would be the only real option I see.