Hi, I think I can help. I've been doing these for a while.
You've almost got it. There is one thing you are missing. Patience. The reason you have such a pull on the battery from the bcm is that it is still awake. You set up the test perfectly but there are a few things you need to address to get a real parasitic draw number.
First, if you have iKey you will need to arm the system and relocate all fobs at least 10 feet from any part of the car. If not locking the
Secondly remove the fuse box cover in front of the battery. (pictured below)
After you set your DMM up and arm the car you will have to observe the current at about 1A for 10-15 minutes. After that you should see control units start powering down. At about 28 minutes the bcm should power down and your current draw should be in the range of .038mA. A little higher if there is
anything aftermarket in the electrical system. There really is not a spec but after the bcm goes to sleep the tolerable range is probably about .02+- but less is better.
Record your readings every ten minutes.
Remove #37 fuse and record the findings. Reinsert the fuse and record the change.
Let us know what you find.