Do all men cheat?

[Jesda]

That one definitely doesn't work for me. In school, I WILL cheat if I know I won't get caught. It's hard to have standards regarding something you don't care about/have no respect for. Actually, I guess your analogy still does work for me...I just don't have the same standards for school as I do for people.

On unrelated electives and such, yeah, it probably wont literally harm you, other than from a moral/conscience perspective. But as I near completion of my degree, more and more content becomes cumulative. I can't complete one course without retaining and using what I learned from the previous one, otherwise I struggle trying to relearn the math and other concepts I should have learned the previous semester all while trying to soak in new information.

[skydragoness]

Actually, I guess your analogy still does work for me...I just don't have the same standards for school as I do for people.

And there it is.. I think some people just don't have respect, er.. standards in regards to people as others.

I really wish all people thought like you. Sadly, not everyone does. In fact, most people don't. Many people would much rather do all those shady things required to cheat than face confrontation with the root of the problem. It's a sad reality. It really is. I cry for humanity.

Meh. As Charlieo said, you can have an affair of "the mind" and if you want to get technical.. I think we all have those. It's when people decide to pursue and put such thoughts into reality is when the immaturity of not being able to 'fess up to their significant other comes into play. I don't know. I don't judge too much.. if people want to sleep around then they can do so...just don't keep secrets. Some couples out there have open relationships that *seemingly* work out well. (Although I'd be worried about uh.. STDs..lol)

All in all, lot of people just can't be honest with themselves or others. That's the flaw.

[Ace2cool]

Think of it like school work. I wouldn't cheat even if I knew I wouldn't get caught.

See, I see this example all the time while in the military. "We're so far away from each other, she'll never find out". And they never do get caught.

I've literally seen someone get off the phone with his girlfriend, who is back home on the East Coast, tell her he loves her, then go make out with this other chick not even 5 minutes later. It's all about "instant gratification" when viewed in that aspect, though.

Sad truth is some people just don't have respect for anyone but themselves.

[Bmore-coupe]

I have cheated 1 time in my life, and I felt awful about it and came clean, found out that she had done the same, and got passed it.

I would never do it again, so much easier to just leave the relationship, because if you are really considering doing it, the relationship is not satisfying you (in one way or another) in the first place.

However, I have been with a girl who has a boyfriend recently, still havent figured out how I feel about it. I mean, I am single, so I didnt do anything wrong. She knew what she was doing, but I still feel kind of bad considering the whole "golden rule" aspect. I wouldnt like it done to me, so why do it to someone else? IDK, but I just seem to always attract scandalous women.

[MinisterofDOOM]

Meh. As Charlieo said, you can have an affair of "the mind" and if you want to get technical.. I think we all have those. It's when people decide to pursue and put such thoughts into reality is when the immaturity of not being able to 'fess up to their significant other comes into play.

Exactly. The real problem isn't necessarily the desire, but rather the choice to ACT on the desire. Though the desire can still definitely be a problem. All people have weaknesses, though, and stronger people will be able to manage those weaknesses.

[Jesda]

I'd love to stuff Mandy Moore in a duffel bag, take her home, and keep her. Fortunately, I have impulse control.

What defines people is the ability not to control emotions and impulses -- because they're always there -- but the ability to control how we react to them. That frontal lobe of ours is supposed to keep us civilized.

[Bubba1]

I'd love to stuff Mandy Moore in a duffel bag, take her home, and keep her. Fortunately, I have impulse control.

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I guess we won't be seeing you do something like this...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ftY2p0L8F-Q