Common Courtesy (PO'ed warning)

[nametakennow]

So...

I worked my *** off all day to get my science project completed so that I could go down to a party with my gf tonight.

Finally I get it done, get a quick shower, rush dinner, and drive like crazy to get there in time.

Of course, she's not ready, so... la dee la... wait...

Finally get to go, and I follow her through ****roads to get to this chick's house.

Get there and she introduces me to..... dun dun dun... NONE of the 4 people who come to greet us.

As the night progresses, she might have introduced me twice, total. And spent a lot of time leaving me hanging, then asking why I was so quiet.

Now, normally, I'm very self-reliant socially. Had I been single and/or just a friend from the same county and not one with a rep. for being snobby, I would have been fine, but with the "PTC snob" and "Tif's bf" stigmas going, I really didn't want to work my *** off to get through those.

I tried to stick by her to no avail, she'd just kinda semi-ignored me.

So, after about 2 hours we start watching movies and she and I cuddle a little or whatever. I give every indication that I find the movies boring (face it, horror movies are) and that, since she has been saying that we need to talk, we ought to do so. She doesn't take that or any other kind of "hey, let's leave and go somewhere a little more private for a little while" hint.

Then we leave.

Best part of the night: the drive home- backroads, windows open, cold night air flowing in, stereo on, car screaming... mmmm...

Anyways, am I old fashioned (I'm 17 for God's sake), or is it common courtesy to actually spend the majority of your available time with the person you claim to love (and have hardly seen for a month and a half)?

Note: this all comes after a really tough week, since last weekend she told me some really-not-good-to-hear news about her past that she had kinda lied about before. And, of course, her constant claims that I'm "running away" and "not trying hard enough."

/rant

[gniknave]

That was rude of her not to introduce you. And if she has lied to you then how do you know she's told you everything now? You're right, if someone hasn't seen you in a long time, and they claim to love you THEN SHOW IT! Leaving you by yourself at a party isn't cool at all. Especially if it was a friend of hers and not yours that was having the party. As a courtesy to you, she should have made sure to introduce you to everybody she talked to. I could go on and on but I have to say that from my experience when I was in my teens, girls are probably at their rudest and most selfish points (most of them at least) when they're in their late teens.

[GEO]

Dude your in highschool, You don';t need a girlfriend in highschool. Oh man, oh man. Your missing out

[jdmfreak]

Rough

[VashFC]

That was very rude of her.... All that I've got to say is people that young just haven't learned how to treat people right. It's just a fact of life. You're lucky if you can find someone in their mid-20s that knows how to actually treat a significant other respectfully and caringly ALL the time. My only advice that I can give is... don't settle for less that what you deserve.

- Chris

[JustinStrife]

Not cool at all. Me thinks there's more to this story...

[Altiman94]

sounds liek you are a very clingy guy. I wouldn't worry too much about it, as she seems fairly immature. I don't think you need to be worrying about love at this early in the relationship

[Mr1der]

meh, you're both young and stupid, enjoy it, I am.

[base9se]

Leaving you hanging, man that's messed up. Past is the past get over it. You can't change it, it will always be there.

[elwesso]

meh, you're both young and stupid, enjoy it, I am.

Agreed.... Dont get so worked up about stupid ****... Big picture is, you probably wont spend the rest of your life with this chick (not saying it wont happen).. So just enjoy it for its perks, ignore the bad parts, and when you break up (hypothetically) you can say you had a lot of fun and be ready for a new chapter in life.

[Drift Machine]

Whats with this current influx of guys complaining about women. Seriously you are young why the hell do you want to spend high school worrying about some vagina.

[nametakennow]

Generally she's the clingy one and such. I wouldn't really consider myself clingy in this situation because of the fact that I really was an alien coming into their world. The social gap between my area and her's is incredible.

Anyways, as Jeff knows, I've reached a solution to the influx of BS that I do believe you'll all be proud of.

[PalmerWMD]

Its a sign your relationship is on the rocks.

Fred..

[The Mic]

[Bubba1]

Well, sounds like you both need to simply talk to each other. You two are both teens, Kinda hard to demand total perfection in social etiquette. You said she's 17 and a bit clingy. Well, that's a sign inexperience in social settings to me. So she was unaware of her social faux pas. Stuff like that happens, especially as teens. If that does happens, you simply introduce yourself to the host and other guests, and continue on. Then later... PRIVATELY... let her know that you felt uncomfortable with how the evening went. I've gone to many hen parties where I got abandoned by my date. I ended up finding the bar and chatting with some of the other abandoned boyfriends. it happens. You make the best of it. I actually don't mind parties like that once in a while as it's an opportunity to you learn different things about your gf.

Enjoy.

Dr. Ruth.....less

[nametakennow]

She's 16, we're on opposite spectrums of the class of '06...

Anyways, I get the idea that faux pas happen, but I know she knew what was going on. She made sure to tell me for the past two weeks how all these people wanted to meet me and such.

In the end, it's incredibly familiar territory, being the guy that's "shown off" as she put it beforehand. In other words, I feel like I was just led around, a ploy to get attention. That makes sense, since, in the time that we've been dating, she's gotten more attention for various issues spurred by the "mystery boyfriend" than normal.

[Mr1der]

**** man, you shoulda just put on a little hat and did some backflips for them...

on the plus side however, atleast she's not trying to hide you.

[Bubba1]

Have you two actually talked about it? 16 is pretty young to expect maturity in a relationship. Don't get me wrong. There are many mature 16 yr olds out there, as well as immature 40 yr olds. You seem more worldly than she, but you gotta realize that 16 yr old girls behave... well...like 16 yr old girls. She's a junior in high school, right? It's hard to expect an adult relationship with someone that's not an adult. She may look like an adult, but emotionally she's still a kid. And if you don't like being shown off as a 16 yr old girl's "prize" to her sweet 16 clique of friends, then you might want to seek out an older or more mature girl to date. Ball is in your court.

Dr. Strangelove.

[nametakennow]

Considering her past, I figured she'd know better. Considering all the stuff that she says and does, I'd think she'd know better.

Anyways, I'm the biggest proponent of the idea that age is not a prerequisite to maturity. It's a matter of finding a girl who has been there and/or understands the idea behind all this.

Anyways, like I said, I have a solution I think you'd all be proud of. I'll keep you all posted if you want.

[gabossie]

That sucks, but I thought we were done with the "bitching about my life" threads...

[nametakennow]

This isn't bitching so much as making sure I'm not crazy in thinking that it was rude. I constantly question my own thoughts/feelings to make sure I'm not being too terribly irrational.

I'm really not annoyed anymore so much as I feel more... informed I guess about her. This really explains a lot of things that have happened.

[skydragoness]

Leave her. If she can't give you the time of day in front of others that's a very bad sign. Besides, like all the other guys said, your'e in highschool--it's rare to meet anyone as mature as yourself. But they do tend to pop-up when you're not expecting it.

[MaineExport]

I got to agree with Fred, looks like the relationship is heading for the skids.

It sounds like she's been dropping you subtle and not-so-subtle hints. Have that "talk" that she mentioned and keep in mind that she is just another high school girlfriend.

We've all been there, life sucks but then you meet the next one and it gets better agian.

[jdmfreak]

LOL!

Dont worry. We put some of my advice and some of his thinkin together and got a good plan goin. I will speak nothing of this plan for that joy is for him and him alone.

[creophus]

Dude your in highschool, You don';t need a girlfriend in highschool. Oh man, oh man. Your missing out

Don't waste your youth being tied down to one girl. Now I'm not saying soe any wild oats, but enjoy yourself and take it easy. Also, date more than one girl at once!

[getnrowdy23]

yeah, man, peachtree city people are freaking snobs dood, i wouldnt want to talk to you either man... nah, im just kidding...17 is to young to fret over this stuff... next time just leave... dont tell her you are leaving, just leave for a while then come back and see what happens haha, dont listen to me.

[-HyJynX-]

Love, Pfft!

Drop her and go out and explore other women...or should I say girls. Your wasting your youth.

[nametakennow]

Like I said, I have a solution.

We broke up last night, of course, I made it all my fault just to make life easier, then slowly revealed all the facts.

Anyways, she understands stuff and I do too. So, we're not completely over but this singular crap is out.

Apparently she did have a talk to have with me, and was going to soon, so we started laying all that out. I think we'll finish that conversation sometime in the near future, and go from there.

However, no matter what, I'm not going back to the one-on-one relationship thing for awhile, too much on my mind.

[creophus]

Rock on. Now don't waste your time with your ex-girlfriend and moping around about being single! Have fun with your guy friends and go out with other women!

[nametakennow]

Let's just say that when I say I have a lot on my mind, only part of that is stress .