the link below describes the operation of relay. it's just a switch that can be controlled remotely.
http://www.the12volt.com/relays/relays.asp
Another question, now would I have these same problems when lets say I get the SR swap done because you use part of the wiring?"
most likely, your problem is a bad starter motor. when you turn your key, you are just connecting positive to a wire going to your starter motor.The 89-92 240sx(manual) has an inhibitor relay in this wire going to starter. a relay is just a switch(open/close) in the wire that opens and closes. when you depress clutch, a simple switch(clutch interlock switch) closes, supplying ground to relay coil. the coil is energized and closes the inhibitor relay(switch) ,sending positive to starter. so, you have three switches in wire going to starter: (1) one that closes when you turn key (2) one that closes when you depress clutch (3) inhibitor relay that closes when it gets positive from you turning key and negative from the clutch being depressed. if you don't get positive delivered to starter motor , you can jumper th inhibitor relay and cluch interlock switch to see if they are the problem.
for security, some people put another relay(switch) in the wire going to starter. for example, when the alarm is armed, power might be supplied to relay coil keeping relay open so positive does not get to starter motor