(CAR CRASH) myself, my girlfriend and her three sisters....

[oraleway10]

Nothing can express how I feel right now, I feel anger, I feel embaresment and most importanlty I feel thankful for the angels that are watching from the heavens above.

Yesterday at around 11:30pm, I, my girlfriend and her three sisters were in volved in a disgusting car accident. Yes, you read correctly; I had one extra person in my car not wearing a seatbelt. She was sharing her seatbelt with her other younger sister behind me with her older sister sitting besides her.

This all happnened in San Diego, reason being my girlfirends family wanted to throw her a belated 21st birthday party. She turned 21 last weekend and stayed with me so I could take out to the night scene, since we live on Sunset in Hollywood.

Once we got at her parents house, everything couldn't be better. I had my fat tire in one hand chicken in the other while watching the college games on T.V. As the night progressed I had 4 beers total and I was only drinking from 1-7. We decided to go to the boweling alley at around 11-11:30 or so, which is about a 5-8min drive from her house. So we all get in the car and drive down to the bollewling alley, as you can see from the map below; its a road going uphill with a VERY steep cliff right beside it.



So. I'm turning on Paseo del Rey toward the bowelling alley on Lazo Court and as I'm turning the corner and I want to push on my brake a bit. But instead of hitting the brake I hit the gas with my sandal, making the car fish tail toward oncoming traffic and the cliff. So as I'm fishtailing I see oncoming traffic coming towards me and I try to brake again, but I had my stupid sandals on and coudln't tell which one was which. The foot hit the gas peddle and made the car go over the curb, break the wood fence and come to a stop 10ft away from falling from the steep cliff. Yes, 10ft...I'm speechless and depressed to my stomach over this. I'm ashamed, embarrased, afraid and thankful for the outcome of this. No one was injuered, I didn't hit the other cars and NOBODY IN MY CAR WAS INJURED IN THIS. thank god.

Cops show up and tell me my eyes are blood shot red. They take my information and go through the process of giving me all the test. I fully coperated with the cops with every test and took the breathalizer test and passed everything with ease.This was a driver error and it was unfotunate that I had my girlfriends younger sisters with me and had them experience this horrfic event.

Now, I sit here today with a family that doesn't want to talk to me ever again until the time is right. My girlfriend hasn't talked to me since this has happened and she just sent me a text saying that shes sending me an email about all this. I really hope she forgives me for this event that occured yesterday, it was an accident and nothing more.

Today, I value my life to fullest and I'm really thankful to be alive and not have the guilt of having someone injured by my mistake. I feel fortunate to be writing on Nico's blog today and will use this day as a day to recap my life and take a breather.

And to make this worse, I couldn't even enjoy the new mods I bought for the G and you could imagine the damaged this caused to my car. But that doesn't mean anything, because me and my girlfriends family are here today.

God Bless


Modified by oraleway10 at 5:05 PM 10/12/2008

[SVTCOBRA]

SO sorry to hear about the accident!

Very happy that everybody is OK!!!!!

Give the emotions some time. Sounds like the sandals were to blame.

Take care!

[tollboothwilley]

Dude, that sucks. Sorry to hear about the family and the accident, but its a huge blessing that everything is ok.

Glad you are all fine, cuz thats the only thing that is really important.

[oraleway10]

Thanks guys, you and my family are being very reashuring...

I was only going about 30mph on the curve....i just, f4cking didn't hit the right pad! And I usually never drive with sandals, so both peddels feel the same at times. You guys know what I'm talking about....

But yes, thank god im here: my life is not insurable. I truly value everything that I'm currently experiencing, being 22 this is really a life changing experience.

Right now, I'm sitting on the lap top writing out the letters to my girlfriend and her family. They know I'm sorry, time will tell if they can forgive me for my mistake

[audtatious]

Glad you and your passengers are all safe. The can can be replaced.

With the pedals so close together in the G I can understand having this problem. It took a couple of times with mine to not occasionally hit the gas and brake at the same time in normal shoes.

[Jacko3]

Dear Oralway10:

First of all, I am so glad to know you are okay---life comes first. Second, I am saddened by the damage your G sustained, but i suspect it can be fixed since it appears it wasn't completely totalled. Thirdly, see all that happened as an experience that demands the best of your person. I am not sure how old you are, but i suspect this event shook you to your core---we all go through similar stuff. So, the days of introspection and self inventory are here, and it is usually a good thing to take such inventory when time calls for it. And one advise i will give you is not to ask why it happened. Rather, accept that the incident happened, learn from it, and know that it happened for a purpose in your life. Time will tell what that purpose really was. You may not realize it, but you have grown wiser and stronger for this incident.

I may not necessarily be the best with cars or know how they really function, but I can give pages of advice and sound wisdom on how to move ahead and be ahead in life, under the most trying conditions. Finally, we are glad you are okay.

Trust me, I have been in worse (lost my car with a complete 90 degrees fishtail while turning---My car was totally covered in smoke from the tires--thank God no other car was behind me as they would not have been able to see me, lost my front drivers tire at 75 miles per hour, and in all cases, I found it very funny and interesting, especially with the way I recovered. I feel i was built for stressful and adrenaline filled conditions).

NB: Don't forget to purchase a pair of snug and low sneakers---they work well with fast and continuous shifting, and tip-toe driving, especially in the 6MT. I have two Walmart pairs i use specifically on those days I think I am going to go crazy with my G---there is little room for mistakes with snug sneakers. And, as an advise, before you ever drive your G coupe, make sure you check how every aspect your body, from head to toe feels---I have found that the potential for mistakes is high when i drive my g when i even have a twitch in my eye or have a small headache---the G requires a lot of attention and zero distraction to drive.

[zozoka1212]

First of I am happy all of you are ok.

I learned myself long time ago not to mix sandals and drive.

About the family. Just give them some time to process it. Most people needs a few days to process it and calm down. It is better that way.

I am sure they'll forgive you. Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes. This is a good lesson for you. Also good experience to see how well people around you handle the situation. At least you know how is your relationship with others.

Hope everything goes well for you.

zozo

[oraleway10]

Thanks Jacko,

I really feel like crap right now, no emotions, I feel really drained...

I'm just glad that I'm alive and no one was hurt. At the end of the day, the car is a piece of metal and my life and my girlfriends mean more than my G any day...

Its a sad sad thing, what happened. But thats what insurance is for...

Now, heres my question. I bought the wheels, tires and all the other crap about 4 days ago, I didn't call my insurance company to tell them what I had done to the car...And to be quite honest here, I honestly think and this is killing me to type this, BUT I think the only reason the car stopped was because of the new tires. I swear, if i would of had the previous tires on there...I would have gone down that cliff no questions asked. I had some were really really bad.....

What a night I had yesterday and what a learning exprience...jesus

[oraleway10]

First of I am happy all of you are ok.

I learned myself long time ago not to mix sandals and drive.

About the family. Just give them some time to process it. Most people needs a few days to process it and calm down. It is better that way.

I am sure they'll forgive you. Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes. This is a good lesson for you. Also good experience to see how well people around you handle the situation. At least you know how is your relationship with others.

Hope everything goes well for you.

zozo

Zozo- Thanks bro...

Yea, I'm letting the family take a breather. It was really awkard this morning, no one said anything to each other and I was full of emotion. Just thinking about the damage I could have cost to this family. Is something that I couldn't live with myself. But thank god it turned out the way it did...such a horrific scene.

And the dad took us back this morning to show us how deep the cliff was. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? let me just take my daughters back to where you could have died, they dont' want to see that!!! But I stepped out and noticed what the tires did and what damaged I had done....I definetely left a mess. Jesus christ, but thank god that my car stopped and didn't go over the cliff....jesus

But I've now relaize its not what could have happened, its what happened and thank god we're here to live another day...

[zozoka1212]

[QUOTE=oraleway10]And the dad took us back this morning to show us how deep the cliff was. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? let me just take my daughters back to where you could have died, they dont' want to see that!!! But I stepped out and noticed what the tires did and what damaged I had done....I definetely left a mess. Jesus christ, but thank god that my car stopped and didn't go over the cliff....jesusQUOTE]

He did it for a reason. I guess it worked. He wanted you guys to make sure you realized how close it was.

Don't worry bro just learn from it that's all. RWD car with 300 ponies can be dangerous. Only takes .1 second.

zozo

[Tampa G35 Sedan 6MT]

Glad to hear you are safe!

Hope everything goes well. The family will get over it! If not move on. It was an accident! You can't help what you can't control! Trust me!

If you need anything let me know

DJ

[Ar878]

Glad to hear no one was hurt and that you guys are all okay.Hope all goes well for you.

[MagicM]

Best thing is that your safe , Next time shut the engine off and pull the e brake for life XD.

[bentrod]

First and foremost, glad there were no injuries that you know of, but money does strange things to people and many times after speaking to others, the injuries manifest at a later date. Be this as it may, let me share my experience from working in the auto insurance industry. In the future, never put a testimony like you did here where it can be used against you at a later date in court. Blogs and emails are all subject to a suboena. Don't get hung with your own rope!

As far as the wheels, tires and mods go, they will be covered as long as they are permanently attached to the car. If your car gets totalled, the insurer will owe you the amount that the mods increased the Actual Cash Value of the car, not what you paid for them. If the car is not totalled and these parts are damaged, they wil pay to replace them except tires and moving mechanical parts are sometimes subject to depreciation.

I hope everything works out.

[oraleway10]

thanks guys, I really appreciate the love..

I posted this story on here because I needed to express myself. Especially since I still haven't talked to my girlfriend since the accident, I've been going out with her for 3 years and I still haven't heard anything from her. I hope she calls me today...

At the end of the day, the car is nothing but a piece of metal and even though i loved that care a lot. I'm glad I'm here at work, I'm glad her sisters are alive and are in school and more importantly I'm glad my girlfriend is living and breathing. Because she doesn't deserve to die young and neither does anyone else...But I'm glad that there

I'm dealing with the insurance company now...i'll keep you guys posted

Once again, I apprecaite the love and I'm glad to be here

God Bless

[Beancooker]

Glad everyone is okay. Petter to have hurt pride, that a hurt family member.

[etschell]

if she cant forgive you over this, she isnt worth it anyway.

you didnt do anything wrong, you mistakenly hit a pedal. i could see if you were show boating or hot dogging it why she would be mad. and what kind of sister lets her siblings ride in a car unbuckled? that makes no sense and if she suggested you take the car that is a really bs double standard.

but enough bashing of your g/f, at least you guys are safe. its a shame for the g, but it wont be the last one that bites it.

[G_whizz]

Crap!!

Sorry to hear what happened and what you are currently going through.

But I am glad you made it out in one piece!!

Give her time to digest what happened.

Theres a reason it's called an ACCIDENT as long as it really was the sandles and you wren't horsing around...she should understand.

Good luck!

[Jacko3]

Oralway10:

Well, the older you get ( is uspect you are less than 30), the more you will realize that are tons of equal or better p****** out there. If she cannot forgive you for this small error, then seriously think about the future and all the other stuff she will not forgive you on. A real relationship requires the spirit of forgiveness and emotional support. Fun, laughter, giggles, being laid back, and having a good time, all the time, is the illusion being sold to us on how a relationship should be.

I have a zero tolerance policy for any female who tries to act out, use their body as a weapon/tool to force me towards her will, or outright dishonest/manipulative behavior. I seemly move on to the next ***** without even blinking an eye. There are tons of them out there and you better take advanatge of it before you get too old ot get busy. There is an advice provided my old man (Grand pa) in the movie titled, "Little Miss Sunshine"---the old man was right and I am well on my way to break some serios record this year on all kinds of ladies who want to have some excitement. Life couldn't be better.

[jbillion]

Great advice Jacko. From your eloquent words, I can see why your title is "NICO's poet."

[oraleway10]

Hi guys,

Once again, thanks for all the support...Jacko you're truely a man of wisdom.

I'm currently at my house, I couldn't go to work today. After seeing my car yesterday and talking to my girlfriend, I had to take a another breather.

The car is a loss, I really can't see my insurance compnay fixing it. Plus I don't even want it back, I wouldn't feel safe and I can imagine the damage I caused once the car went over the curb. Especially since my car is very low...

I had a very long conversation with my girlfriend yesterday and she has forgiven me for my mistake. And even though things will never be normal between me and her, I know that they will be better than before. Because this inncident hasn't only made me stronger as a person, but it has changed every outlook on life for me. From dealing with my girlfriend, from work, to my family and many other things.

I don't want to say I'm glad this happened, but I am glad that it went the way it did and that I'm gaining so much from this experience at a age of 22. Some people don't experience something like this until they're in their 30's, I'm glad this happened to me at a young age.

Now, I sit here on my laptop thinking about life and whats ahead for me. God spared my life for a reason and now I have to figure out what that reason is. But I'm glad to be here and I'm glad to had a G in the first place, because all of you are great people and I wish you all the best.

One thing is for sure, I will get out of debt before buying a new car again. I'm not that deep into debt, but I know its the right thing to do before getting myself into another monthly car loan. Even though I can go use my 750 credit score tomorrow and get another car like nothing. I wont rush into it like I did the first time, I"ll do it when the time is right.

God Bless and I hope you all have a great day

Modified by oraleway10 at 2:34 PM 10/14/2008
Modified by oraleway10 at 2:36 PM 10/14/2008

[Jacko3]

Oralway10:

We all love and care for you here. I am glad she called you and I am most happy with the fact that you both are getting together and working things out.

Now, with what you have said, I am 110% sure that you are on the right track. Keep that attituide, and I bet you your girlfriend, will think the whole world of you, and hopefully, she will give you the type of loving that will rock your world and make you forget about this situation, and all the heafers out there. Well done! We are all here for you anyday, anytime. One for all, and all for one.

[oraleway10]

Just wanted to let you know that the car is a loss and it doesn't look like I'll be getting a car anytime soon.

The damage done is about 15k and my insurance company is saying its worth $17,400 (not including the extras I put on myself)

I currently owe 20,000 on the car to the bank. I'll be lucky if I get 19k and pay 1,000 or so out of pocket and walk away from this.

My dad will most likely put me on his insurance to drive his car during the weekdays to commute to work. I won't get another car until I know the time is right....

I'll be around the forum checking out threads and reading up on the G news, but I don't see myself getting another G anytime soon.

I thank you for all your support and I hope you never experience what I went through.

God Bless and take care

[Tampa G35 Sedan 6MT]

They (the insurance company has to pay for or replace what you just spent on your car. )

I know my mom totaled her car about 3 years ago and she had just spent about 700 dollars on tires etc. They gave it all back to her!

And fight for what you think the car is worth. Place it for sale with the pictures you have and see what kinds of bids you get... Then take it off ebay before it ends! Prove to the insurance company what someone was willing to pay for the car before the accident!

DJ

[G_whizz]

Damn...really sorry to hear!

BTW...you don't need a G to hang with us here.

Don't be a stranger!!

[Jacko3]

Oralway10:

Man, keep your head up, keep your fingers crossed, and just beleive. Don't feel dejected. Hang in there. Life has a way of coming around full circle to make things right. Like i said before, this is just an experience that was designed by providence for a purpose. I have a feeling you will be buying another G-Coupe very soon. If they are not going to pay for your wheels, at least ask them to switch out the wheels with the old original wheels, take whatever they give you, and make do with it. I am pretty positive that you will be fine and okay in the end.

[Tampa G35 Sedan 6MT]

Nice words Jacko

[etschell]

part your car out. i really suggest you do this.

[oraleway10]

Hey Guys!

Jacko- I wish I lived in Florida, I would love to take you out for a brew and have a conversation with you...your words are really something else. Keep it up bro!

On another note I have some good news...

The insurance company just called me and let me know the figures for the car. I'm getting $22,032.65 total!!! 20k of that will go to the bank and I'll end up keeping the rest. Jesus, what a relief!!! I'm so glad it worked out!

I can't thank you guys enough for the support and advice, I wont be a stranger around here....

If I was my old self I would go get a new car tomorrow from the dealership. But that was then and this is now and I wont do anything until I know the time is right and I'm out of debt. I'm currently driving my dads Pontiac Bonneville, which is kinda awkward since this was my first car back when I was 16. But my bonneville was an 87, the one my dad has is a 97.

God has an interesting way of working and teaching the lesssons that we sometimes miss by our ignorance towards life. I'm just glad he gave me another opportunity to be the man he always intended me to be.

God bless and I hope you all take care, see you guys around

[Sentientbydesign]

If I may...

I've been in a few horrible accidents. The worst was when I was 10 and my grandpa and I slammed head-on into another pickup. I didn't have my seat belt on...

Another time involved me loosing traction in my I30 going 80 around a turn and running into a chain link fence and there are others.

The point is, we all feel horrible right after the events. Whether it be scared for our lives, mad at our actions, or just numb. Learning from our mistakes and those of others is very important, but getting back on the horse is even more important.

My wife and I have a really close friend who was in an accident when she was 15. Her family's van was t-boned and rolled 7 times. Everybody in the van was seriously injured. 7 years later, she still drives overly cautious and gets herself into unnecessary harm because of her jitters. My wife gets very anxious whenever our friend drives because of that issue that she hasn't let go.

Just be cautious, but in the same sense, don't be so overly cautious that you hurt yourself in the process.

We'd all like to see you in another G. Hope you change your mind one day.