Hey nico I need some help! Was driving down the highway a few nights ago when I discovered 20in wheels dont handle potholes very well at 85mph

Shattered my front drivers wheel and bent up the rest of them pretty bad. I had been running 20x8.5 +45 with 245/35/20 Nittos on all four and am lowered on Eibachs. Surprisingly the tires are all still perfectly fine so I plan on reusing them. Here's my dilemma...I've been ballin' on a budget so I cant break the bank. Here's what I've been looking at for replacements:

20x8.5 +35
or the same ones in 20x9.5 +35
The 20x9.5+35 would have much more concavity to them of course but I have no idea if you can run my current tire size on them? Trying to reuse them to save $$$.
An online wheel calculator says if I went from the current 20x8.5+45 to the 20x9.5+35 it would have 3mm less inner clearance and stick out 23mm extra. And even if they worked can use that same tire size? No idea if that would work help me out if you can! Thanks guys