Yeah, loudness all depends on the muffler, use of resonator, size of pipes, cat, too many variables. If you want it to be quite, be sure to use a resonator (like a secondary muffler) and the catalytic converter, as they both cut down on noise. Also, removing cat may help a little at top end (or alot if car is heavily modified), but will kill low end torque(which is bad). 2.5 piping is a pretty good size, but i would go for 2.25 if you are not planning on doing much more than exhaust, intake, basic stuff. As far as noise, I would go with a good high flow cat, resonator, and some kind of muffler that is made by a well known company(flowmaster, magnaflow, brm, ect.), and stay away from straight-though canister style if noise is a huge concern. I run a custom 2.25 inch system, no resonator(it cuts down on flow slightly), magnaflow cat, and a universal canister style muffler. It sounds good, but is so low that it sometimes bothers me. Kinda wish i hadda gotten a resonator or gone with a quieter muffler. Yeah this post is long enough so im out.
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