Craigslist will be your friend for Nismo stuff if you want to go that route, I got a Nismo Strut bar (mint) for 40 shipped from there.
Some suspension stuff:
http://www.importcarpartsplus.com/b15suspension.htm
I have the Eibach Sway bars, I really like them. The rear you have to do some slight modification to install them since we don't have a rear one stock, but it's not that bad, just make sure you have a good drill bit. For the front, it helps if you loosen the rear bolts to the engine center support, gives you just enough room to wiggle it in there. I've heard good things about the Tanabe Under brace, except it does take up a lot of ground clearance. There are custom options for rear strut bars, and I think a few big name companies make them.
Coilovers, I have the Tein Basics, but if you're going to auto x you'd want some dampening control, so I'd suggest the Tein Super Streets or the new TDMi coilovers. Also, you can't go wrong with BC.
Basic bolt ons (intake, header, exhaust) will help wake up your QR. For exhaust I recommend trying to find a used Nismo or Apexi WS2.
I'll continue this tomorrow with some more links.