I don't want to make you sort through too much, but look at EC-108 here:
https://www.nicoclub.com/service-manual ... 8%2Fec.pdf
The ECCS Relay feeds both the injectors and the ECM on separate throws. The pin 3~5 throw feeds the injectors, the pin 7~6 throw feeds the ECM, and the same fuse #62 feeds both the relay coil and the 7~6 throw. Note the "SSOFF" wire running into the ECM. That wire
grounds the ECCS Relay coil, it doesn't power it. So, with the key off and the relay removed, you should see power on both W/R wires. If not, check fuse #62. You should also see power on R/W (the injector supply). If not, check fuse #63. Those fuses are all in the Fuse & Fusible Link Box under the hood, not in the cabin fusebox. You can find the fuse layout here on page 4:
https://www.nicoclub.com/service-manual ... oldout.pdf
If both fuses have power
and are both good, but there's no power at the relay,
you almost certainly have a harness conflict. If there's power at the relay where it should be, then put a test lamp across the coil terminals and turn the key on. The lamp should light when the ECM tries to turn on the relay coil. If it doesn't, same deal --
you almost certainly have a harness conflict, and in this case, it may have killed the ECM.
I'll just point out that the reason swap harness guys get such big bucks is exactly because of these kinds of situations. Plug in wrong and blow up, and all that takes is one crossed wire.