Tsa, as Fred said, the J30 is extremely reliable. Your engine, the VG30DE, is found in the normally aspirated 300XZ and the Nissan Pathfinder so a Nissan dealer mightbe a cheaper alternative than the Infiniti one. Additionally, there are 300zx sites such as
http://www.z32.org/index.shtml and
http://www.twinturbo.net where you can post questions or look over service proceedure writeups. There is also a yahoo board dedicated to Infiniti vehicles.
You have an unusual problem. In fact, I haven't read of a similar one after going through thousands of posts about these vehicles. Take heart and have a little patience. You own a great car. Don't throw your baby out with the bathwater just yet.
The dealer's suggestion of getting rid of the car is typical. Who, exactly, is he trying to do a favour? You or him? The dealer certainly wants to move cars.