Look at MA.PDF in here:
http://www.nicoclub.com/FSM/M
It answers most of your questions, lists maintenance items, and shows how to perform all the fluid changes, incl. transfer case.
1. Mobil-1 is good
2. No personal brand preference
3. Your local Nissan parts dept sells the same fluids used by Infiniti. I've also bought genuine Nissan (Blue) coolants online, incl. Nissan's concentrate for extreme cold-weather. Use Blue stuff for aluminum engines.
4. Any Dot-3 brake fluid