The 4wd lock locks the front drivetrain with the rear, 50/50 split. The problem you're having is a result of open differentials between the left and the right drivewheels. Most R50 Pathfinders and QX4's have open carriers, allowing the wheel on one side to spin twice as fast, while the other does not move at all. 99% of cars on the street are like this, but don't know it until they hit some snow or mud. Some R50's have an LSD equipped rear differential, you probably don't. You can purchase ARB air lockers for about $700 for one kit, to lock the left and right drive wheels by a pneumatic actuator (you need an on-board air compressor to run this kit)
http://www.arbusa.com This website shows an in-depth installation on an R50 pathfinder
http://www.xplorx4.com/pathfin...x.htm http://www.xplorx4.com/pathfin...2.htm I would like an ARB one day. It will make you unstoppable. For right now, all I can do is stomp on the skinny pedal and hope I make it.