To find connector locations you need the PG (Power Supply, Ground and Circuit Elements) section of the FSM:
https://www.nicoclub.com/service-manual ... 5%2Fpg.pdf
The "M" designation on the connectors means they're both in the Main Harness that runs underneath the dashpad. "E" is Engine Room Harness, "B" is Body, "D" is Door, "R" is Roof, etc. The only one that doesn't follow the pattern is the engine control EGI Harness, which is "F". You'll find the M harness for your ride starting on PG-43.
For pinout diagrams, they're always found on the pages immediately following the wiring diagram, which in this case is in the HAC section on HAC-45. The pinouts give the associated wire colors, and unless noted are always displayed "harness side" (the side where the wires enter). This is shown by the "H.S." in the box beneath the connector ID, the rare connectors which are shown "terminal side" will have a "T.S." in the box.