Nothing is going to blow up in your face
The servicing port of the recharge canister will only fit onto the low pressure port of the AC system. So you can't even accidentally connect it wrong. The only thing you have to do is make sure the car is on, the AC is on full and then connect the recharging canister. Make sure to get a canister with a pressure gauge on it. Most of them will have a green area on the gauge, this is where you want your pressure to be.
As a rule of thumb, don't pressurize it more than 40 psi.
After doing a recharge, your AC should blow cold within a short time. If it doesn't, there could be other problems. Sometimes a pressure switch can go bad and cause the clutch not to engage as well as several other things. Most of those problems will require a professional.
I doubt you will be able to hear/see any leaks, but perhaps you will. Stop if you hear or see anything like a hiss etc.
Several of the recharging canisters include a leak stopper as well. I suggest you look for one of those.
I've used this one myself, it's from Advance Auto.
If this doesn't fix your problem, report back and I'll have one of our AC experts chime in.