If the scanner won't connect then it's almost certain the ECM is offline. The question is whether it's dead or simply not waking up. The ECM has to wake itself up because it needs to be able to monitor the evap system when the car is shut off, so it uses an ECM Relay located in the IPDM. If that craps out then the ECM won't wake up. You can see the wiring diagram on EC-143 here...
https://www.nicoclub.com/service-manual ... 6%2Fec.pdf
...and the IPDM layout on PG-25 here:
https://www.nicoclub.com/service-manual ... 6%2Fpg.pdf
Try swapping the ECM relay with one of the others, if that wakes it up then the relay is bad. If that doesn't help then make sure fuse 77 is good and has power. If so, put a test lamp on IPDM pin 18 Red/Black and see if it goes hot with the key. If it does then your ECM is dead. If it doesn't, put the lamp on pin 46 White/Black with the other end of the lamp connected to 12V and not ground. If that lights with the key then your IPDM is dead, if it doesn't then the ECM is dead.