OT = good or bad idk

[kcourtad]

My ex gf is preggy with my 1st kid... but im going to raise this kid to not be like me... but i still dont know what to do... im never scared but i am now...

[powergrip]

My ex gf is preggy with my 1st kid... but im going to raise this kid to not be like me... but i still dont know what to do... im never scared but i am now...

Stick with it. It's the best thing you'll ever do. I speak from experience. I was your age when I had mine. The last 4 years have been the best of my life.

[Ever Victorious]

It's scary and daunting at first. My wife and I had been planning to have my son for a while, but even with preparation the first few months can be a bit chaotic.

Best things that you can do... Let her know that you are there. This doesn't mean just calling her and saying "yeah, I'll be there"... actually be an active part, even of the pregnancy process. Find something that you two can do together, like Bradley classes.

And don't fear the diaper. :P It's not all that bad. Once you've been snotted all over and spit up on a few times, nothing seems gross anymore.

[Skim302]

My wife and I had been planning to have my son for a while

Do you have a son? Or are you just hoping for one? lol.

[Ever Victorious]

Do you have a son? Or are you just hoping for one? lol.

Have one. His drool is still on my knee from the last time he tried biting it.

(he's 9 months old and absolutely LOVES his 6 teeth)

[kcourtad]

i just hope her short temper span don`t last too long... plus i guess it dont help that im a everyday smartass... but i have been trying to keep that under control and keeping my mouth shut... but my god she can cuss more then me sometimes... and shes called me everything but a white boy... i just dont understand how they can get so whats that word (bitchy?) i mean short temper

[daan]

(maybe this should have been a PM instead of a post, but here goes...)My wife and I had our first kid in Sept. I was one of those "I'll never have kids" guys, but as soon as I saw her come out it was a whole different story. THese last 6 months have been the best ever, even though my life is nothing like it used to be. Seriously it's scary to think about and your girl will probably be an insane maniac the whole time she's pregnant, but the first time you hold your child it's 100% worth it. Believe me, it's absoluely life changing but I wouldn't give it up for anything, and I never thought I'd say those words before now. Good luck!

[daan]

i just hope her short temper span don`t last too long...

nope, it's just going to get shorter. Especially when it gets hot outside.

plus i guess it dont help that im a everyday smartass... but i have been trying to keep that under control and keeping my mouth shut...

Keep trying that, I think my wife wanted to kill me weekly while she was knocked up.

i just dont understand how they can get so whats that word (bitchy?) i mean short temper

THose would be "Hormones"... been there my brother. Hold on, it will get better, I promise.

[marleyfan]

As a father of a 16 yr old boy and 19 yr old girl I will tell you this. Every stage is better than the last one. From infancy up through toddler and preteen it just gets better and better. Til they become teenagers that is....but I won't talk about that. Once you get through the baby stage where all they do is cry, puke and crap it's all golden. I wouldn't change a thing. Enjoy it.

[Ever Victorious]

Oh yeah... and don't forget... spring for a Britax Marathon... they're very highly rated, safe child seats... and they fit perfectly in the V using the LATCH system.

Graco makes some good baby products, but avoid their car seats like the plague. Mother in law bought one, and we couldn't get it properly installed in her Civic or my Versa... only the wife's Tucson would take it, and that was with traditional belt installation, not the easier, safer LATCH.

[kcourtad]

Britax Marathon never heard of it but i`ll be looking into it... thanks

[Versagirlie]

awww a baby! I wanna baby....

[powergrip]

awww a baby! I wanna baby....

Be careful what you wish for

[kcourtad]

Be careful what you wish for

ditto

[Ever Victorious]

awww a baby! I wanna baby....

Be careful what you wish for

Exactly. kcourtad could give you one.



Ok... that was in bad taste... I'm sorry.

[KimberKenobi]

EV!! How dare you!

[Ever Victorious]

EV!! How dare you!

They left it WIDE OPEN! I had to!

[kcourtad]

They left it WIDE OPEN! I had to!

yea it was his turn...

[Andrews Chalmers]

Don't take this the wrong way... but how do you know the baby is yours?

[kcourtad]

one you have to trust the one you are with... and i couldnt find the "stuff" on the BLACK towel i used or in the versa... soooooooooooo... pretty much sums it all up... ps that topic about how the front seats can be turned into a bed... well yea it works... even on a bumpy night....

[faction]

Be Patient!If that kid is crying all night for 3 months and you feel yourself starting to lose it, figure something out and get away.

Not that you would do anything scary, but Omaha has had a lot of shaken baby (and worse) stuff going on lately. I would not want that to happen to anyone. Especially someone like you that wants to step up and be a good parent.

[kcourtad]

well the thing is i`ll most likey start working nights so i can make more money... the cost of living here where i am at is kinda of cheap... so getting a well paid job is hard to find... so i`ll probley be taking a job 35 miles outside of town... good thing i got a V for the gas mileage...

[jdshift]

You are very young to have a child this is true, but it will define you as a man to be who you are...........don't let it stress you to bad, it all works out as long as you give the effort. It's alot of fun dude I promise..........but I won't lie it has it's tough moments, just work with it.

[slaggit]

Hang in there, parenthood is and should be scary. That you're scared means you CARE. LOL about the black towel. You going to name your kid Versa? Maybe the middle name?

[kcourtad]

versa... as a name... lol just because i own one doesnt mean im all about it... not thinking of names as of yet... she goes to the doc some time this month to see how far along she is... if i can just get her to slow down on buying purses and makeup we should do fine... like the past weekend... 60 bucks for a gold purse... 25 for a wallet to go with the purse... 20 for sunglasses to match the purse... so thats a 105 bucks total just on 3 things ??? thats about 5 packs of dipers some baby wipes and some butt powder for the kid... idk what im goin to do... shes a spender...

[slaggit]

Sorry, was just joking around to lighten the mood. You have a good head on your shoulders. As far as Versa goes, maybe a middle name? LOL...I mean this child was conceived in your V right? Yes, she'll need to stop buying all the pretty stuff for sure. I'm new here, don't know you, but best of luck with all this, it's big!

[superskunk]

CONGRATS ON THE BABY..... IM NEW HERE ALSO.... BUT YEAH I JUST HAD MY FIRST KID BACK IN OCT. AND I HAVE TO SAY SHE LOVES THE VERSA TOO.... (MORE THAN THE SCION XA I HAD FOR 2 WEEKS AND COULDNT GET FINANCED ON) I GUESS BETTER DEAL FOR A BETTER CAR AND NOW IM HERE SAYING CONGRATS TO YOU.... SEE HOW THAT WORKS OUT?

[my_new_v]

one you have to trust the one you are with... and i couldnt find the "stuff" on the BLACK towel i used or in the versa... soooooooooooo... pretty much sums it all up... ps that topic about how the front seats can be turned into a bed... well yea it works... even on a bumpy night....

True dat bro!

Congrats on the baby though bro. You seem like a good guy. And I know the feeling of have a girlfriend that spends haha. Anyways man good luck luck and I hope everything works out for best for you are your girl.

[Ever Victorious]

If she's your EX gf, there's not much you really CAN do. You can try sitting her down and working out a budget and showing her why her (insert Brittany/Paris/Lindsay addled attire here) is not a good idea, and hope she actually listens.

Just some considerations for her... WITHOUT health insurance, giving birth costs around $8k-$10k. Even WITH insurance, my wife and I paid close to $1000 in medical bills throughout the pregnancy.

I spend probably $35/week in diapers, wipes and food ONLY for him. This does not include clothing, toys, post-birth medical bills (thankfully only $25/visit, since he's been completely healthy... just routine checkups) or other incidentals such as shampoo, baby powder, bottles, etc.

I have no idea how good of a support system you two have from friends and family. If it's large, like ours, there's not a whole lot of major stuff you will need to pay for outright. A neighbor gave us a free crib, and we got everything from clothes to a wipe warmer, baby monitor and toys from relatives and friends. If you don't have a large support system, expect to spend $1000 or so outright just for the initial stuff you will need.

The two biggest expenses I pay for my son are college savings and health insurance, which is about $200 a paycheck between the two.

In a nutshell, if you two aren't together, she needs to stop spending and start saving NOW. Even if you two are together (or are planning to be)... she needs to stop spending NOW.

She may not like the prospect, but there's something that she needs to understand... she is no longer #1. She will never be #1 ever again in her life. The child is #1. Period. End of discussion.

[superskunk]

thats funny that u mention buying diapers.... when we had our baby shower we put diapers (various sizes) on our registry and i really didnt have to buy diapers untill my baby was almost 3 months old.... but yeah man u have to start a budget... i was lucky, when i found out my girlfriend was pregnant i had barely started working again.... i couldnt imagine raising our baby on just her income.... moral of the story start saving and get health coverage.... and also start a college fund too....