The mistake you are starting to make is building the motor/adding bolt ons to suit the boost pressure...
Think about what your goal is first, then work backwards, this will allow you to make some informed decisions...
How the motor is tuned itself is the most important aspect if you want to boost an internally stock motor, there is no real set answer unfortunatley..
You could jam 13 pound into it and if the tune is shocking, kaboom... However on the other hand you could jam 20 pound into and if the tune is spot on it may live on for years..
Also, when you start discussing turbo's T3/T4 are the flange types on the turbine (exhaust) side of the turbo, this doesn't really give you the characteristics of the turbo you are considering... Have a read of this site:
http://www.turbobygarrett.com/....html
Hope this helps you...