I have Googled and searched forum and cant find the loc of these relays. Every diagram of the fuse/relay box (on left side of my car near the battery) is different from mine (for 07s not 08s. Relays are not in that box but the fuses are. Want to do the "ctrl F/L separate from H/L mod". There should be a relay box somewhere under the hood but I cant find it. H/L and F/L fuses have power even with the H/L off.

I have found out they are inside the IPDM. Are they under the wiring harnesses? If so do you simply lift them up to access them?