I'm trying to remove my alternator (4 hours now)...
I have 2 issues:
1. I can't remove the connector... I don't want to break it.
2. The manual doesn't mention, but there's a wire harness attached to the back of the altnernator... how does it come off?
I've attached pictures.
The connector that I can't get off.. no idea how it's supposed to release, and I can't find another in the engine that looks like it so I can figure it out...

The wire harness, and how it's attached to the back of the alternator
There's a flat piece of metal attached to the back of the alternator that the black housing slides onto and locks in place. It won't budge.

Any help on how to get these 2 gremlins out, and I'll maybe have my alternator out. I'm about ready to get it towed to the nearest shop and have them do it. This is ridiculous!
